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at this point in my life it's convenient for me to date a married man H very convenient I don't think I'm destroying anybody's home because their husband is my supposed boyfriend that's not my business you me married men that 6 months 3 months they don't have sex at home but they want to [ __ ] you every day they come to their girlfriend's house they want as they they enter they want just they do but at home the is nothing so how you go so that's my fault that you're not having having fun at home and that you can have that fun with me a million times in a day if you so wish you will always come to me first make sure whatever you're doing you're using a condom life is preference right I like to date married men you cannot date married men let me do what works for me and do what works for you I was saying something earlier about my state of mind where I cannot be with a single guy because at this point this is what I'm looking for and I can easily and comfortably get that thing that I'm looking for from a married guy that I know I am not interested in getting married to and he also knows that his feelings for me are temporary if he falls in love and decide he wants to get married to me that's on him if I like him too much I will marry him primary thing that keeps that man coming back is the sex is not anything why do you think a man that has a mistress for a while and decides he wants to make her his wife again the way she makes him feel I'm going to go into sex a little bit tell me more tell me my mommy welcome to the honest Bunch podcast thank you so much every 600 p.m. on Mondays you're there you're with us throughout the week you're with us throughout the month you're with us throughout the years we are grateful see our award congratulations to you guys congratulations thank you guys thank you guys force of pod people will be say they podcast make impact they change lives they turn things around for good now we now we win them the honest Bunch podcast and it is a 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material our ouring Mel chocolate pu what are you talking about the of the Hest you know that you know that this there's this thing does to me I love this materal materal thank you very much it looks like you be today give my position our elder brother is on sabatica he get some kind important message when he go for Mountain so ladies and gentlemen today we are blessed with the presence of great personalities and I am very certain that if you follow this episode until the end you will definitely take out very important life lessons let me begin first with um a podcaster a digital content creator and the voice of a generation of Nigerian women who want to take over the world by making tremendous uh impact ladies and Gentlemen please make some noise for moo moo moo moo mo mo sorry shock you're welcome thank you so much thank you so much we gra we're blessed to have you in our presence ladies and gentlemen this young woman is a Vanguard that has helped to liberate so many people when it comes to understanding your body being confident in your skin and not allowing anybody tell you anyhow she's an advocate of such she specializes in teaching people to know themselves believe in themselves and do all that they can to see that they add value by first loving themselves ladies and gentlemen enterpreneur per Excellence CEO talking B once you see this woman you know say business there ahead and so many other things please make some noise for a fortunea the girl talk hello everyone yes thank you so much God bless you am make I clear my truth this young man is a good friend of mine and I am proud that I know him in person he Prides himself as the finest man alive God praise and the savior of all the sheries he's super funny super creative super talented he's also a podcaster but in podcast now to win people into the kingdom of the most high he's a Christian with a difference he has the Seal of God he carries the armor of the Holy Spirit ladies and gentlemen the holy ghost in the room with us yeah he's here he's here very strong can't you feel him yes hallelujah hallelujah GL someone say Glory Glory so thank you so much euka thank you so much the girl talk thank you so much moo we really very very grateful and I'm very certain that we're going to have an amazing and interesting episode so what discussing relationship and it's important that we have such conversations everyone wants to be part of a relationship everyone wants to get into a relationship yeah take a walk on social media and you see people say the and God when and oh Lord am I a stone that you would hear would shock you it is because people look at things like this and they excited because they love what they see but before you get into it what do you know before you get into it are you confident in yourself do you love yourself enough to love somebody else and add value to them we go discuss them discuss red flags discuss green flags everything concern relationship and you will definitely learn so I think a very good place to start is to Define what relationship is to you your own understanding of what relationship is I think I would like to begin with Mo I was looking at you looking at my way I'm like hope it's not me is you what does relationship mean to you mean to me yeah your definition of relationship a man and a woman a couple yes yes well to me um it's supposed to be some form of like a partnership like I feel like your partner is supposed to compliment you like where your weaknesses they have their strength and where their strength hey you understand what I'm saying yes yes yes yes you compliment each other yes you compliment each other someone just like to help me I love relationship I'm a l girl so I love love I love seeing love I love the idea of love all right okay Mo lover girl loves love loves seeing love loves the idea of love girl talker mhm yes over to you your definition of relationship yes so for me yeah relationship starts with you before the next person before the man or the woman that you want to bring to yourself if you have a personal relationship with your s then you can now understand what you want from the next person first do you want love do you want friendship cuz when there is friendship then love can begin to bloom you can have someone that is not your friend and you go straight to loving them it doesn't work that way so first you understand that you want friendship from this person you want something tangible and then you're like okay I can love this person over time again love is conscious so we're going to get to that but now decision where you go decide say this person I one lover interesting you begin to love the person relationship is you first then before the other people interesting Iuka over to you yes so for me yeah I'm not a preacher of love but I'm Jing I'm Jing but on the most I think like when I think of relationships I would say you know two emphasis on two because nowadays you know leadership they be like Community you understand two two individuals man and a lady very mature individuals that decide that you know they want to go through the Journey of life together with mutual interest and um they have shared common goals you know together that is uh for me an optimal relation ship you know two people mature because most cases it's a maturity problem you know a lot of and that's why I like what she said and a lot of times people are going into especially in our generation today everybody want the relationship you know there's a there's a kind of subtle mockery of day your day you know seems like if you're single you're you have an issue so you see people that have not fully formed their ideas fully matured you know they're looking for somebody else and find people that cannot just stay on their own so that maturity issue first always comes into play because you're not mature enough and some people are not you know emotionally mature they don't know how to handle disappointment and if you want to enter a relationship these are humans are people the one of the natures of men is that they are variable they change they say things and do it is who people are that's why they're not infinite you know so if you're not yet trained on how to handle such disappointments to love people regardless yeah you know emotionally how to manage hurts manage all these things and you want to go into relationship it's going to be a disaster so also Financial maturity people will never hold their side you know because the thing they require action yeah you understand love for mouth not the does it's not really effective like that you understand has to be shown and often times it's not even about being materialistic you know it's about doing the least you know so to show care you need funds you know so that thing happens and people are not ready for that and even physical maturity I don't hear say that one even there people we some part of them are not 100% they're looking for somebody to be with so I feel emphasis on maturity for me and you know another thing is shared common goal because that's another thing I've seen it firsthand where people get into relationships and there's subtle resentment you know because you just see the life you're supposed to have you met this person and it just took you away from that life and you can't really accuse that person because everybody will say you the C when you follow him you know but deep down your heart you know many marriages now know they work the wife is looking at the guy he just represents all her stolen dreams you know I came I married you I I didn't want to have kids to now I have kids this is not how I planned life to be but this relationship sto that but you had that conversation on common goals first you know you would know whether I suppos the same line with this person or not I have a question okay it's for girl talker okay do you think humans have the capability of loving two people at the same time I mean emotionally giving to two people at the same time like intimate relationship not when born two children no be children intimate emotional people can I agree with her why explain okay so um again I said conscious decision to love right so if you're intimately entangled with Mr a for a woman men do it more that's why a man can have a wife a full-fledged family and falls in love outside it doesn't mean he doesn't falls in love outside yes it doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife it doesn't mean he has stopped loving his wife like he still loves her 100 but he's still fully in love with another woman outside I it do I don't think that is possible what do you mean you don't think that is possible personally why because um first of I think you you have to first look at you know because if you say the question is can somebody love two people intimately at the same time at the same time yes you can it depends it's not love if if if this is what I think this is what I think because human nature naturally people are selfish you know and when you're selfish if you chop seven dishes you know you B you understand but you can't claim to love somebody and also love another person because that is an invariable it's an attack of Your Love of this person you can trust me you can so if you're talking about emotion and feeling about Vibe and feeling feeling is not love if you're talk about Vibe and feeling I can love I can feel good and you know want to be there for 1 2 3 4 5 because it makes me feel good you know but is it really love is is all about me it's not love now like can you really love someone and say like you're cheating on them is that like is that really love like I don't think you're really about cheating I don't about I think yeah I want to hear her as well no see the thing is you can love as many people as you want to love shab they say for God so loved the word and he sent his only because to come and die for us God loves everybody equally so for me I can decide I want to love you because of how you make me feel in a certain way okay you touch me right you kiss me right I can love you for that then I can love somebody else that gives me money because he gives me money m so you can't divide the love and share it around why do you think men have five six seven wives you think the the men the husband don't love the wives H have you thought about that like a man has seven wives that he provides for all of them so you think he loves one more than the rest no let me tell you why a man has five six seven wives cuz truly when people number one is that you said you love this person because he treats you right are you seing the emphasis it's still you but it's you you can love so so it's not really it can't be love let me explain something it can't be love if it is selfish it's not love then it's what it is it can be attraction it can be using because what you just described now is you this person's utility to you just like you love your shoe and because of the way it makes you look you can't really say you have shared love with that shoe it's not possible the shoe is a tool for your beautification just like that lady is a tool for your sexual satisfaction and so as as long when you know that you don't really love her is the day she stops being useful for you in that regard but that's how it always is like you say that you everybody has reasons that they love you yes let me exp the only person that loves you for you is God and your exactly what the world it's the truth because that is what is mainstream but that is what it is but it's not true it's true so what is true what I also think is because you love this shoe it makes you feel good you might as well treat it right not showing love cuz I mean I love my bag I love my phone I don't want my phone to fall on the floor if it falls on the floor it's useful to me very but then if it falls on the floor I'm sad too because it's an interwoven relationship it gives me and I give it so it's it's left for me to keep my phone safe from hand ham Sway and left for my phone to also make sure that I make calls and that doesn't mean you can't have a second phone or a third phone but then I have a but I seldom look at that phone on a second thought I I have a second phone but I seldom the phone is in this bag because so this is the this is the that one is side Che yeah so you still love the both right okay so let me say Let me say something about that you know I think the problem is you know and that's the problem of today definitions you know so because of words have changed over time contextually and what they mean all right so in today's world like what people are describing to me doesn't mean love you know can I come in no I'm not saying I'm saying by definition what you're describing isn't love to me it's just like what you just described it's just like saying you work in an office all right and you get paid at the end of the month in that office your value is tied to what you bring to the table all right can you truly say that the company loves you because it pays you the company loves you know why because it's number one it is purely transactional number two you are only as useful to that company as you show up to do that job so it's not a love Rel I'm going to have to cut you off a little bit can I go ahead yeah go ahead now you're bringing office inside of Love office and love cannot go together how how love is personal how you feel about something how you feel about someone let say office let me say can you can you say your boss loves you because of that's personal no that's not different it's the same it's the same utility value conversation my boss you're there to walk and receive can I come in please and the phone is there to call I'm help browse have you heard this have you heard this thing when they say that don't let your boyfriend stop you from finding your husband right that's the first one and also I believe [Music] that I believe I believe that you have soulmates for a certain time but I'm just saying I'm just saying because if you if I call husband material my soulmate now we we got married and stuff and God forbid okay don't let me useb materal if I call someone my soulmate now and God forbid something happens to the person will I say because the person is my soulmate I won't go and look for another person to marry and I can't still fall in love with that person you can that's because you believe in the concepts of Soul right so I still believe we can have soulmates like at the same time uhh yes you people I don't know that mean your soul is an a soul you can have a soulmate at the you see I feel like if your if the person person you you find right now you are saying that that person is your soulmate you you can still find another soulmate outside why it just you have to be intentional about the person that you say you want to fall in love so yes you can fall in love with more than two people you falling you know you you mentioned something you mentioned something you said transaction before we run away from this I just want to pin on it let's dig deep theaction no but before we dig deep into he has his definition of Love which comes from the part that he's a man of God that's why he's not taking our approach no no no no this is where no no no he's a Christian like this let put like this let put like this the part that's the problem you know when I said definitions definitions are so important because they drive Our Lives they determine our standards of reasoning of right and wrong morality definitions so that's why people say Your Truth my truth TR okay but the truth for me you're right when you say love I'm thinking what is love and I'm very funny enough I'm very I like to he knows I like to think philosophy I like to think let's see how this idea can weigh MH love is has to be the appreciation of value all right True Value that's what love has to be the of True Value in other words you see the true value of something right a thing all right you appreciate that true value now when I say True Value I'm referring to intrinsic value because if you look at it externally that external worth can change do you understand what I'm saying but I'm talking about True Value now having said that when you have when you talk about emotions and feelings the thing about emotion and feelings is is it possible for me to have to feel a certain kind of way with two people emphatically yes I can feel a certain kind of way with 70 people because it's emotions Emotions Don't Know emotions don't have intelligence that's why there's EQ there's IQ you see if as this guy is here now your feelings are inside you it's like data all right I like saying that and you guys process those data to get information that's why if you want to love love now brings intentionality into the play this guy makes me feel this way do I want to love this person nobody they love passively but you can feel passively if somebody buys you stuff regularly you don't know where you catch yourself start saying ah it's that feeling stuff for the guy he passive but love got be active I decide to love you so can you actively decide I want to love you and a fundamental problem with you that's what the point is not necess because why can't you see in value in more do why can't somebody see intrinsic value in multiple people why because number one all right now that's that's that gets to my point you know if I say um the love that I uphold that's a definition yeah one of the things I look at in the love is for me to effectively love you I must want what is best for you all right I must desire what is good for you all right so if I'm in a relationship with you and I desire what is great for you I don't want to hurt you so how can I be in with seven other people okay so look at it like this we look at it like this that is because you're speaking from the point of view of a selfless person but in the point of view of a selfish person like because they selfish doesn't mean they don't love you hope you know no no no if you're selfish you don't love them you love yourself how I love myself and I love you too but I love myself more than I love you that's it that's what it means to be you love yourself more than you love the person that's what it means to be selfish you must love yourself you love yourself most yeah before anybody comes in you first but I I don't agree with being a selfish person what I'm trying to explain what I'm trying to explain to you is that they are coming from me place of I am a selfish person so I love myself and I'm thinking of myself I'm not thinking of her I'll be him how does he feel about me and this other person or how is he going to feel if he found out that I was having a can you truly say you love that person can you truly say because every time there will be a conversation between you life is a choice between me and you every time love is sacrifice he has sacrifices rather you know I'm I'm sorry not to everybody wait wait wait so see we all have our different understanding of love but it doesn't change it doesn't change what love is it doesn't change what love is we might to you love might be the person killing themselves don't worry because of you but it doesn't change it doesn't change what love is it doesn't let me change and if if we if we okay I'm trying to for oh yeah the dictionary def so let's start from there because your own love is different your your love is me let me tell [Applause] you before she read before she reads the dictionary just want to put the caveat there because words in the dictionary change yes meaning by use by context yes no you I say that when you say like it's like it's just like people that you're talking with and they say may we Google them that's a very dumb is shows your lack of intellect because oh so I'm Nott how I say that I'm why I put that cave there is that you know he just said something he said no matter what love means to you to you to you to me it doesn't change what love is it doesn't so in our Quest To Know What Love Is I'm saying going to the dictionary doesn't necessarily mean may I also defend myself and people who are like me that would go to to the dictionary for love especially before I ever went to Google the meaning of love my father had defined it and my mother had defined it and the definition that I've always heard was what I saw in the dictionary it is an intense feeling of deep affection from the word get go this has always been the meaning of love other words can change even if you want to coin love to mean another thing you cannot take away the place of the words affection and deep intense so but can you be deeply intense with two people at the same time I call it love you can can y you can you need to hang out there is not Love Is Lost no l is different I feel like I feel like you can two different things and l two different things can youting me what's love and loss okay no okay no make that your point make that your point before Girl Talk would say ahe you know you were talking about when I said can you be deeply intense with two people at the same time yeah exactly so like you know people me I look at people as experiences like this person is an experience that person is another whole other experience the way this person might care about you the way this person might maybe pick up the phone to call you in the morning that other person might not do that his own way might be texting you his own way might be sending you breakfast like people are different experience langues do you understand so it's very possible for you to be like I love this person for all these things and I also love this other person for all these things as well but like I I just want to say that what you said what you said now are expressions of Love okay all right that doesn't and if you check it these are expressions of Love Yes loveand material laughs husband material frowns is still husband material that's what I'm saying so I'm saying that somebody does um somebody's will sends you breakfast to express his love the intent of the expression of Love let me B your word is deep affection yes so him sending you breakfast him sending you money him spending time with you different people whatever their case might be those are just their expressions of the same cor love so that do mean that the love is different do you get my point you're the one not getting the point because love is not people just love differently and that's what I'm saying now you getting back to what I'm saying Perfection Rel back to what I'm saying that that hold on remember the rhip we spoke about all right maybe I'm maybe I'm ahead of myself it's okay relationship that we spoke about all right we said relationship right so I'm thinking of love in the context of a relationship relationship that's my what I'm thinking so if love is in the cont of relationship I'm saying is it possible to love I don't think so is it possible to desire want different people facts it's possible that's my take and I cuz I want to I want to even say something you're Muslim I don't know whether I'm it's true but I heard that um they say polygamy is accepted in the Muslim religion if the man can love all his wife equally so if they say if the man can love his wies equally which means there's I think a possibility that there's a possibility for you so how do you now measure the love thank you how pragmatic is that why do you do wait it's just like the case of like you were in a relationship with someone and they treated you some type of way maybe yes they loved you but there were certain things they were doing that in this their new relationship they are doing way more with this new girl it's because it's not like he didn't love you but like their love is different your love to is different another thing is people love my point is what she's always talking about is expressions of love not the love itself talking about Point see my point see my point when you say that I was in with you and I was not doing some things all right and I enter relationship with you I started doing those things it's because of me because of who I am you get you love me because of how you feel about me and you feel differently about her okay let me how do I explain this let me bring it home let me bring it home let me land it like this mhm what what isn't is I believe is EO right mhm you're EO too right I'm rivers rivers I like that what's your call like your tribe in rivers a I speak a language okay so we're going to do something very practical now I'll say the b I would say Trend up Awards we won it that's the message M now I just said it in English but the call message I wanted to communicate to you was TR up Awards we won it mhm now if she goes to the East and she want to say TR up our words with war she can say maybe that thing I just said could be a longer sentence yes maybe in Reverse this I just said could be a shorter sentence just one word up now these are different expressions of the same message you get so I'm saying that the what what what affected the expression of the message number one the audience language it changed it I was with you and I was expressing love to you speaking use the word language speaking it in a certain way all right and I enter this relationship and this person is a different audience and now I'm speaking it differently do you get my the same I love you I'm trying to say in the different things I'm doing that's my point that is not that the love changed is the expression of the love that changed no no I don't agree your point that you've been trying to make is that one person cannot love multiple people yes no one person in an intimate relationship relationship that's my point they can cheating I think the point that you're trying to not want to deal with is the cheating part because you love me then if you're loving the next person it means you're cheating so that mean I don't love you I no no no no no no no no no no I can love I know I'm cheating fully aware of what I'm doing but I love the other person so why is it notating so why is it not called cheating if it doesn't mean you don't love the person you just Ser are just selfish like you can't have selfishness and love in the same equation and love in the same equation self you know it was when you were talking about this selfishness that you mentioned transaction and I was trying to even ask transaction is exchange of value yeah give me I give you yes okay so I give you the money to value of the bag you give me the bag so a transaction has happened yes but then I'm asking what is not transactional everything is okay because if I love you you're fulfilling some need exactly for me and I'm also fulfilling some need for you let's even take it back to Creation okay Jesus made humans to worship him I love this argument so we are worshiping him and he's feeling really good at his place of abod I mean yeah they said worship makes God free I don't know correct me oh God I'm a Christian but they say when we worship God he's you know he is happy that he's receiving and he even said that if few people will not worship Him He will raise stones to do that which means he needs worship no what is no he wants let's say he wants what she he can't need it he does need he wants okay okay no I mean the but I mean the Bible says that the Bible says okay let me not say he needs it but the Bible says that if humans don't worship God he will raise Stones which means he will be worshiped at the end of the day however worship is a thing yes must a value that humans bring to God Le the point now God in turn for what I believe in I talk to God and I tell him what I need and he gives it to me so there's an exchange of value I value God for protection I value God for you know how he just makes me feel I feel like there's somebody that a protector a guide so I feel like God guides me God protects me and what I now do for him in turn is to obey him respect him blah blah blah so I'm also giving him value yes what do you think okay so let me explain that when you say um let me start with you say transaction is exchange of value right and so in some sense when you look at it everything is transactional right but transactions are not the core of everything the relationship between you and your parents I don't know about everybody's parents but you and your parents a natural affection by natur it shouldn't be transactional you see you really think that you brought nothing to the table for your parents no I said listen when you say something is transactional it means the core of it is a trans action mhm you get you can get benefits from somebody and somebody gets benefits from you it doesn't mean that the reason why you're together is because of those benefits that's what I mean by transactional the core of it is not transactional okay I guess what I'm saying now when you equate it to so is it when you say is everything everything is transactional even your body not transactional everything is a transaction even your body is performing transactions as you are eating he said it to this guy said it to this guy life is if you want to talk about it like that life has several transactions going on at the same time but the core of everything in life is not transactional when you driving on that road maybe at or chisco for you abroad you don't know this places Google when you're driving like this and those guys come to beg you and you give them 500 na can they do anything for you they help me and clean my wien not everybody that's joke not everybody that has anything to do for you there are people that you just do so I'm saying the base of life is not transaction there are many things we do that are not transactional now number number two is that when you equate it to God all right in God's case God's relationship with man is not transactional do you know why because for a large period of time man never gave God what God wanted yet God came through for man so it cannot be that the basis of what he's doing for you because what you are doing for me it can't be okay because a long time men were doing whatever they like Rebellion against God B talk why we were yet sinners God died for the ungodly where his enemies and he died for us so it cannot be that is transaction that he was looking for do you get my point so I'm saying when we say it should not be transaction I'm not saying that when you love somebody you don't get things from the person or or you don't person doesn't give you things but if that's the basis of your relationship is not love it's a business deal you know I'm saying it's not nothing make it different from people where they stand for Admiral there's no difference now because it's transaction now do you get my point so I'm saying when I say something is not transactional love should not be transactional doesn't mean that there are no transactions in love no at all I'm just saying the core of love is not transaction interesting interesting I don't think that was her point though I don't think that was her the point she drag that's not what the point she gave to me was that when I said selfishness and trans I try not to forget what you people say when you said selfish and I said you can't put in the same place and transactions came up then she asked what is not transactional so I explained the basis of when I said you know transaction should not love should not be trans action in the sense that the core of it should not be transactions do you get it now so so so I mean it's interesting that we are building gradually and we're understanding each other and agreeing and agreeing with each other you know but like we have said um understanding might be different but it doesn't change what it is now is what it is I mean the biggest wedding in 2024 if we go by engagement and you know by traffic yes legal traffic and uh you know how lot of people were interested in what went down that day chido 2024 after after the what did you people [Music] do after the wedding after after the event after the event you know a lot of people were talking about it on social media and a cross-section of people were of the opinion that um cha won I cannot remember the exact wording of the Tweet but somebody was like you know um even with all that she did dealt with over the years or in the course of their courtship or dating she never came out to say ah you are doing this you are doing that and this is what has happened in the end like her settlement you mean okay okay so so okay you say is what settlement go deeper mommy go deer go go deeper Mommy I mean like okay for being loyal I marry you for not saying [ __ ] for not not for being you and not being like the other person that will quickly just run to social media and start running your I'm Mar her no what I'm I'm not saying she settled for leso I'm saying she was settled no like that was her reward for for being who she is to him right so what's your question so wait I'm I'm saying these people who share that opinion what do you think about that opinion what opinion sorry that oh with everything that transpired between them in the course of maybe dating or courtship and she because she did not come out never for once came out to say I want to call you out I want to do this I want to do that look at what has happened in the end so she won now at the end of yes yeah in quote that's what people are that's what these people are saying won people are not understanding who CH is CH is ch ch doesn't have ch is not someone that come to social media to vent if something is wrong with in her relationship if something is wrong in my relationship I won't come to the media you won't I will not okay cuz that is me personally I have a social media life but that part of me is private and I don't want it out there so it's my decision and I'm sure that's Cha's decision cuz a lot has happened mhm that she would have been pushed from this corner this corner go to Media and she's like no it's not your business this is me and David whatever transpired between us stays inside and then bloggers will carry news friends and family will say well this even happened that happened and that happened but in all of this she's just she has never said this is never me I'm not the social media type I can't bring my husband here so if all of this is the problem and then she's like you've brought so much shame to me I can't deal with this when I get married and I become your wife official then I will roar I don't think she's even going to do that cuz again it's not her it's a personality thing if you're someone that is CH or or small thing you don't run on social media you can't even wait until your married they marry you before you run up and start saying or whatnot so all those she won she won I say those people don't know what they talk now no no me I think that I feel like she she didn't win anything that is her man he has always been her man like they're saying over the over all the other women she won that's that's like what they're trying to say when soid the trophy now that's what that's basically their point when they say that she say she W he's depressed and so if I can have him like he's having other women and maybe I don't even want to be his wife I just want to be having him on the side like I'm happy I don't I don't want to be the woman at home that everybody's castigating outside I chop clean my mouth nobody even knows cuz I'm sure there are people that he is having things to do with that are not even on the media MH like if David comes from me today nobody's going to know about it why am I telling you I would't even tell my friends because if I tell them they will tell somehow it will come up in the news so keep it locked down but even so do you mean you would rather be you basically rather be the The Other Woman than be in I'm always The Other Woman always I'm always I have a I have a series it's called the otherw woman I'm always the otherw woman interesting I don't think the other woman to be honest not the woman in the house the woman outside do you want to go into that conversation yes let's go into that first of all I'll tell you this I am a huge advocate for leaving people's thing alone oh no hold up nobody is holding anybody's it's not about holding anybody once the man is married yes he should be out of bounce for who for other girls in the you move your eye he's married but he's the one that is going yes Justified that's Justified like obviously he's a man he can decide what he wants to decide but you you can also decide that I'm not going to be the other woman I'm not going to be that girl she doesn't know how about that the other woman doesn't know that one is now different that's now the man manipulated her but there are so men from the first conversation they've told you already oh true I'm married my children I on my Facebook he in Niger do you understand so like everybody W that convers so what I mean by the other woman right again let's take it back to Cha and David cha is the woman at home Happy David loves her everybody knows even as they walk up and is the woman at home really happy yeah it it's your decision to be happy her best that's why I said I Am The Other Woman always will be cuz I'm not sure I want to be the woman at home that my husband goes out and falls in love with another woman and comes back home to pretend that he's still in love with me but you want to be the other woman that the husband leaves the woman at home go and you know why that woman enjoys the more cuz she doesn't expect so much from him she's hardly disappointed because she knows that he's not mine anyways before she got in to be the other woman she knew there was somebody so for The Other Woman is just what she can get okay so don't you think that with this thing you've just said just she you just said you just confirmed but it doesn't mean that you cannot love multip people okay it's it's different people yes so he the one loving I'm say what she's saying is what she's saying is you can love you you can regardless of even if that one feels sneaky it doesn't it doesn't change the feeling that you have them even if the society perceives it as you are not supposed to that love not fake you love your wife you love your wife not fake wait you this woman is your wife this woman is your wife in fact is not even love not be even fake because love is love all those true love fake love if it is not love it's not love it's something else you get woman for house where you say you love you can't go outside can't go fall in love with don't fall already how we we have like we've several situations I've seen it outside in the news several situations where the husband is going to divorce the wife just to be with the side chck yes now it Happ it happens I know you know it happens most of it would be because maybe because the first wife is not accepting the second wife the husand is still begging online that please please take me back so we we can say both the love of both the wife and the side chick online so does that mean that what what I think is that is it possible to I I double down is it possible to feel a thing with all the ladies on this podcast very possible do you want to this impossible no it says very possible it says very possible very possible that's why a feeling you understand see I tell you you if somebody does love is a feeling not primarily love has feelings that's that's what I think that's why I say we different you see because that intentionality about love has to be there's a choice you got El already a choice it's already intentional the that you're already leaving your house you're already leaving your wife at home you're already leaving your house to go be with somebody is that not intentional it's intentional how you mean like the fact that you planned it that I don't want to be with my wife let me stand up let me go meet other lady that I love how sex in intentionality is the sense that but I don't want to drag this too much because it be like say when I woman the where I really want I'm really interested in this philosoph interested in The Other Woman a very new philosophy you know what is it about so the other woman basically is the woman outside it's not just in relationship or even in terms of being who you are right you don't confirm to what to society standard you don't care what society says this is supposed to be so she said something um people's husband are supposed to be off limit the but you forget that it's the same people's husband that will chase you that's what I'm saying yes he's going to chase you me how many have enter my DM you get a lot has that's what I'm saying they will approach me what you want to give me is it not money mm- you will say no right I will say noly so they approach me and I say yes come on girl you it what different po you want something else I want something else for you is off limit for me is the main limit no there no limit okay but like let's actually look at it in this way what do you really stand to gain from a married man outside of money and material things he's not going to be there for you you think so he's going to he's going to replace you eventually because that is what he does he finds girls to on his wife you know you are just for the meantime a girl I cannot be for the meantime oh and your wife will call you say sh some people in their life okay so I would use me again at this point in my life it's convenient for me to date a married man H very convenient why so why because I'm not looking to get married anytime soon I'm looking to build my brand I'm building my business so if I go in for a single guy he might get carried away and want something extremely serious that I won't be able to give to him right now so realistically that's why I teach self-awareness you need to know yourself before you get in the market of dating so I've already told myself this is the frame this is where I am there are single men that want something casual as well but I want something different that's the point well like I'm saying that there are single men that they don't want anything serious either yeah they are don't want to even just give you money she can't start looking for them yeah but don't you think you'll be hurting somebody inside the house husband that is wife the wife I don't know about her I don't have a business with her I don't even ask questions about her it's not my business but you know that the guy is married yes he tells you I am married and you're like okay the moment he tells you that that's where that conversation ends cuz that's not your business your intentions are with him not with whoever is in the house so however he treats the person in the house it's really not your business cuz some of these people you date them they have families and they don't ever want to talk about your families some alcohol at this point so married man will tell you let's do this but don't mention my don't ask me anything about my family I will not talk about my family it's not your business it's off limit so when a guy tells you that what do you want to do you just focus on him and you forget that he even has anything cuz that is really not your business in the first place so that my own question now is would you say so in that this thing you just described now you and the mar you guys are in love AB he could be yeah you can fall in love with him it doesn't matter if he treats you nice you can fall in love with him oh thank you you can fall in love with him then you can fall in love with him then what happens but there's something I actually want us to talk that you fall in love with him doesn't mean that he must marry you it's just how you feel at that moment I believe this particular thing people make mistakes there when they say that okay I'm not saying as a woman you have you have to care about the woman at home like the woman that you're hurting but at the same time not the one that said the vows you're not even the one hurting the person the husband that should be you guys hold and listen to what I have to say like I am not the one that said the vout I'm not supporting uh anything else I'm just saying like because when people throw blames they're always like oh bad person didn't you know that this person has wife but at the same time they should also the fact that the fact that no they don't do it it's not normal that's why I'm trying to make noral logically you are the One Way say you're no the married man yes because they don't attack the married man they attack the woman outside that doesn't even know anything no but wait know [Applause] anythingit married no and there's really nothing you can do about that you want him goad I feel like this world needs some more kindness like if you as a person gone past that just decide that like this is what I want to do you understand if everybody if every girl actually said that you know what I don't think I want to be that other woman because I deserve more than that there's nothing wrong with that s about situation sorry what about the situation where um the wife um the the man lied to the girl yeah she doesn't know that there's a married woman at home that the guy is married and all of a sudden the wife calls and start attacking her I I I literally have someone that happen so that's why I'm saying that it's not every time that it's always the ladies I didn't say I know but there's a party we have to talk about both sides not just emphasiz the you talk to me I'm with side by side in this married woman married man and single girl relationship is never the lady's fault is the man's fault he comes for her but but when comes for you married people some other woman yes you see somebody you like and you go for them and if they happen to be married still doesn't change anything so that's a problem with the other woman which woman not the woman if you fishing for married man and you say life is preference right I like to date married men you cannot date married let me do what works for me and do what works for you I was saying something earlier about my state of mind where I cannot be with a single guy because at this point this is what I'm looking for and I can easily and comfortably get that thing that I'm looking for from a married guy that I know I am not interested in getting married too and he also knows that his feelings for me are temporary if he falls in love and decide he wants to get married to me that's on him if I like him too much I will marry himh so you admit that the married man has a probability to fall in love with you want something who would not want to fall in love putting yourself in the risk of somebody falling in love with you that problem you said that that is the reason you are going for the married me that's what I said if he falls in love with me and at the end of the day I feel like I have fallen in love with him as well I can marry him men are entitled to so many wife depends on what you believe in don't so on the flip side sorry go ahead please on the flip side we've seen a couple of people who live in marriages that are polygamous yeah and they coexist very well peacefully we don't know what happens inside but we know that they coexist and I've also seen people who the woman at home no exact so the thing that I say is find your match my dear and discuss it sorry why is going to be called cheating is this man married me and he didn't mentioned to me that he at some point will want to be with another woman and finally bring her home that's when I'll call it cheating but right now men do it I've met a couple of guys that would tell you I want to be in a relationship with you but please have it in mind that at some point in this marriage at some point in this marriage I might want to take a second wife it's now left for you to now say ah me I don't want to share my husband with anybody be going or okay let's be going did you hear that she said she will share reach this talk we don't we they learn New Concept every day thank you Professor you're welome but but but me ask this question you know this other woman you know this other woman it would appear like in this age and time you know people some people are comfortable with this other woman yes I am with this other woman yes very much comfortable and have no issues whatsoever maybe because you are the other woman or you are not the person at the receiving end of what the other woman is doing I don't want I can decide to be that woman at home but I decided not to be it's a deliberate decision okay can I ask what exactly so enticing about married men what is so enticing about married men um what I want where my state of mind is I don't want to be married now I don't want to be with a single guy that will assume if we start a relationship we're going to get married tomorrow so when I'm ready to get married I can now decide to date a single guy for that purpose now I'm not dating to marry I'm dating for me I'm dating to experience life I'm dating to you know just date not for marriage well you can do that with single people you know what let me just let me just keep quiet okay okay okay your question this this other woman you go still need to explain because I don't they confuse when just tell me expl the other woman human being me okay now you all right so let's talk about you know people who because all this call be like say love no love doesn't mean love don't mean anything again you get there is love in me I just don't keep on somewhere first stay here for now okay Sam is what the other woman is doing with this married man it's not love not love but the man loves her because he already said because he has the capability of loving two people he could love the other woman agre to that but I don't think married but think about it so so if so if you people now have an agreement that oh I know they do because you already said the man doesn't want to do anything with me okay which means you already know his intention towards you is by the side yes so if he if you know and he knows doesn't it make it not love because at that point now is just Vibes justes in all of this relationship is not everyone that is bold enough to have this conversation and say let's this is what I want from you is not going to exceed this some people deceive themselves enough to feel like he actually loves me he's probably going to leave his wife for me no we're not doing that the other woman is not doing that she's very practical and realistic enough to know that I'm dating you for this time frame because again I don't want to get married I expect that you as a married man don't want to get married to me okay can I ask you a question go ahead what you feel like by the time conf you now decide don't you feel like by the time you now decide like you are ready to you know get married you have already missed out on so many great people that would have probably been a fit for you but because you were already occupied with a married man you lost out on that connection but I don't even know that's what I'm saying like so what if by the time you feel like ah I want something serious it's not hard for you to find but Life Goes On The Other Woman sorry so so if you with this married man now all right and from the vibe I get you you say you don't want you don't want commitment now you just want to feel the F of life right and you're with this married man no commitment that means as you're with this married man it's possible that if another married or single man comes married married okay your emphasis okay that's a spec so if another married what comes you can also at the same time because of there's no commitment no vi just you can also be with that one if he brings another team to the table Yeah if I so desire yeah that's multiple dating yeah of course multiple dating of married men but you know that some of sing you know there so many single guys at the same time you can be dating a single guy and you have like three different single guys that you're dating you men date single girls and you have like five girlfriends yes well can I say it from the male perspective which is for the male perspective there are two types okay the first type is this guy is just indisciplined all right don't say I just want more we can be indisciplined as well no problem I'm just desing the man so that you know it's not love do you understand the man are talk say I get this B I get this B get this you know that it's just purely transactional the things I can ask of this one as an object that I can't ask of my wife things so you get then there is there is that second segment of oh I'm I've married the wrong woman you get story I'm I'm not I'm not justifying I'm just giving you the two major types that I've seen you know oh I married the wrong woman where were you before I wish I met I I I need a hot girl the reply was go and boy your but but but wait is this is it so not those two scenarios No Love of left love is this this other this other woman now don't you think that this other woman is responsible for the situation where a married man would oh I love my wife I love her nothing will happen to her I will provide for her but he still goes out because of the other woman and the fact that the other woman would give him audience because you know we have said H let's let's blame everybody of course that's why in the law you have aen and abtin you have the accomp in fact if you buy stolen phone police not even hear anything do the investigation everybody First Carry now you go point the person so if the other woman has if the other woman has the decision to say yes or no mhm if that other woman keeps saying yes to every married man because they are the ones that moved to me don't you think this is what contributes to the situation where married men would abandon their families because in the end if you do something with the other woman you can't fall in love with her you don't go blame him now because he Liv in wife for us come meet you you can't do things maybe never even see before he to think this my wife do I really love this woman or I love The Other Woman husband material M the woman outside and The woman Inside are two different types of women H the woman outside keeps the husband and engaged that's why he keeps coming back and the thing is The woman Inside used to keep the husband engaged before she got inside and decided to be the woman Inside and changed the thing with you men is now I'm like this we're dating we go out on date we have a beautiful relationship we have sex anywhere every time anytime and then we get married two years down the line I've left that girl I used to be right H I've left that girl that you saw you were crazy about you fell in love you wanted to do life with me but I cannot give you that Vibe and energy anymore 2 years goes by 5 years goes by I've had children I have to take care of kids but you are permanently outside nothing is changing about you but I'm changing at home I cannot match up that energy that you used to love and most of the times you guys are not even bored enough to come and have a conversation with me and say babe you have changed what can we do you used to drive me crazy we used to do this you're no longer doing that no you just go outside then you come to me like this and then you say I should do what that is my fault that your wife changed at home is my fault that you couldn't have simple conversations that would lead your relationship further I should not be a baby single girl living my life because you have a wife at home why not advise him to go back and have that convers the thing with me is I literally I advise you I teach sex now you made married men that 6 months 3 months they don't have sex at home but they want to [ __ ] you every day they come to their girlfriend's house they want to as they they enter they want just they do but at home there is nothing so how you go so that's my fault that you're not having having fun at home and that you can have that fun with me a million times in a day if you so wish you will always come to me okay so if we go back to that conversation about love and um something about about doing do he being active yes so if you are if you if you marry person M when you marry the person or when when both of you become married it did not end there and we have talked about conscious effort to ensure that you keep engaging engage him engage him this example where you don't even give there are people who in even in celebrated stories stories that caught public attention their wife Hur die mad yes but the man still they find the other woman is problem at the end of the day at the end of the day HB material no why I ask get before you talk before the end of the day why yes now why because people talk you don't see that man wife she don't even look like who don't born before but the man still they do goat flavors like ice that is not our problem that is a man problem you have a beautiful wife at home that you're used to you not get that she want fine reach for social media where she post we'll never see her before she they fine for our eye you wake up to her every day there are some excesses of her that you're tired of her beauty cannot change that we don't know that part you live with her you see all the nonsense in fact that wife that they come and post today oh my wife is they probably not even spoke that night before mhm period yes now it's just fulfilling your obligation as a husband your wife for two week never months they have not had sex and they are just doing a married it's just role responsibilities that you're fulfilling as a partner to this person then we that is outside we make your life a lot easier you come we rub your head we pull your shoe we massage your face we give you thinking of myself you know there are some men that don't drink at home but they drink outside there's some men that don't smoke at home they smoke outside I can make you smoke if I smoke it's my bad trait but you would do it because you want to be with me you may not do it too much maybe a little bit but just because you think if you do this bad habit with me we will have excess fun and then Bond over time the you people are very easy to B said the end of the day Mar is scary marriage is very scary and that's why you need to be very certain and ready for marriage I'm not right now I'm not so by the time I turn 40 I know that I should be ready I think that every excitement that I'm looking for outside I would have gotten it I would have taken my business to the point where I want it to be where the I can decide that for one month I just want to be home taking care of my husband and my children I wouldn't miss anything outside okay what sorry sorry real quick what if it was like okay you've settled down to be that woman now and your husband is not playing outside see that's the point yeah at the point where I've decided I I want to be at home I don't day outside I don't tired to day outside I'm not at home knowing that I'm making a lot of money like I'm sitting down in the couch maybe changing my kids diaper and I'm receiving good alerts on my phone and I know I will know say this thing is you don't do them so you know say at some point your husband will do that to you but then it's how you handle it if he does it with respect that you don't have to know there are men that cheat and their wives don't know can never know wait to cheat to cheat with respect cheating I like I prefer respectful cheating yes now what does respect even if you are cheating look at you she must not here I'm not going to call names right but there are people you deal with there are boundaries you can't call them at a certain time when they leave you they block your number so you text them anything after that time that you guys are spending the message bounce back and they conscious enough to remember to unblock you the next day when they leave the house on the you theame it's not us the men I have I have a few questions for the woman outside please you know bring it for the wom so first off is yes you you're sounding as though the woman outside is totally devoid of emotions no she's not she kept her emotions somewhere fact like bring it up at 40 like say she but like woman outside gets control over the emotions like oh these are my emotions here her emotions are in check but I don't think so I'm just asking let me ask the woman outside um when you I'm just saying when you have this kind of constant two things when you have this kind of constant you know you're doing this just for the fun of it just in the moment of it I mean I I think even Cruz the person normally Ser but I'm just asking does the woman outside ever not desire to have more than this even people that don't want commitment they still want the benefits of this is my person all right so does the woman outside ever not have that thought that oh can I respond can I have this person that's one question I want you to answer everything once I like as you you know give us this Theory the second one is when the woman outside now comes inside all right like you know you're saying that she's 40 whether you're 40 whether you're 50 whether you're 60 you understand some things that are cor same in humans so when you have come inside the house all right and now there's a new woman outside now you're the woman Inside power has changed hands you know do you not think that your same emotions that I'm referring to when you are outside the same motions inside as much as you try to ignore it as much as you try to say oh he's just having fun he's respecting me you don't think you would ever be hurt by the actions of the man with a new woman outside now that you are inside those those are my two question and after you have removed your emotions from the check that is now there popping see that's where maturity comes in yeah that's I wanted to answer the question one after like okay start let's start with the one of as you are outside now don't you ever desire because when the man after you guys are finish having then he has to go and he want to call block your number blocks your number you want to call something fun happens your you want to tell this guy outside because you guys are dating remember remember he forget that he's married you're still dating him what's your name don't say now don't forget that life experiences shaping people to make certain decisions in life right so me being the other woman it's a deliberate um reality check for me not to be vulnerable again something happened to you cuz I've been vulnerable I've wanted so many times to be the woman in the house and for some reasons it didn't work out and I was aware of myself enough and timely to decide that okay let's put a hold to this part of life let's chase other things this one will definitely come now this one not the Finish now me day tomorrow you wake up person want marry you marry her but the career part you're choosing the happiness the lifestyle let's chase that one let's leave husband H so I decide to be this way I'm this way is working for me I'm happy I don't think I'm destroying anybody's home because their husband is my supposed boyfriend that's not my business now my feelings are in check whatever I'm doing with somebody's husband I know that it is temporary I'm not expecting too much cuz I don't want to be disappointed I have been disappointed and now I can handle disappointments better so when I decide I want to go home and be the woman in the house I am done being outside the man that have decided I want to be his wife he has ticked some boxes for me that I know even if he eventually goes outside to meet a younger generation of the women outside I can deal with it I know that he's going to be respectful enough and even if I find out how do I deal with it right okay my emotions again are in check so I can sit down even inside the relationship your emotions are also inside the marriage but of course you can't go into marriage you might be a different person by then might be a different person after you have your kids exactly but first and first maturity once you're matured you can handle a lot of things there are some things that okay you know that your husband is messing around in fact you catch him you see text messages on his phone and you're very quiet and he knows somehow that you have found found out but you're still very quiet so he he's scared he doesn't know what to expect he doesn't know if he should adjust and because he knows the kind of person you used to be he knows say you decre now you decide say you won calm down for him because W in the find what you not do when you outside you see and you say okay I just for you then you w begin the flip the script around you want say you like to the outside go outside and do what you need to do outside I'm home I don't tired to the outside so whatever you're doing just be safe first make sure whatever you're doing you're using a condom can you that you love this like this no you H you know they husband no you don't have to love your husband you don't have to you know there are lots of relationship no you don't have to that me m be with someone that you care about you respect them but you don't love them you can function without love now do you know what I feel like sorry to say but I feel like you're coming from a place of you have been disappointed you don't want to believe that what you once pictured as part like the love that you pictured the family the house the home is not possible it is possible for people it is possible for even you no problem also on the flip side in her defense um right now people feel butterflies before the aim of marriage was not based on love it wasn't your father will meet it's not it is families that either they they um he which English should I use now arranged marriages no no yes they arranged marriage but their aims towards this thing yes do when or there are families that that are friends that their children are not even friends and then they say oh because of maybe business or they want to EMP together relationship and then what happens is that after a while in the marriage it begins to grow it to blow [Applause] some this is my point I'm say what you just said so yeah you know when when they said no you got no you can't actually get into a partnership I didn't say you I'm asking that would you be in the marriage can the marriage exist for so long without love people fall out of love in [Applause] marri hold on hold on when you say fall out of love yeah what does that mean feeling that's why I differentiate from you what I was not trying to say that whatever you were feeling material if I was not feel maybe I because that's say feel is not the last it was not designed to last you ENT a marriage I don't think love is I think love is a choice enough Mar I think love is a choice if somebody enters a marriage here and now I'm no longer feeling the butterflies but I chose you and every day that's my choice that I chose you is the love to you why will you choose me so you're telling me that you're settling for me not is not you to Z did you settle for Z no you chose your choices are not necessarily but you travel you decided to travel to Z chose to marry H did he settle for AEL no it's choice I chose it I can afford it and choose to do it so when I say I you're my wife I choose you this bab this other woman is outside but I choose you that is I'm saying what I don't I don't choose other options they can be love without commitment I don't know what we are doing without theor are working because of these ideas of love that something you know that people actually hold on sorry please do you know that people actually um they they fix their marriages because they decided to have open relationship mhm you know like there are two people nowand M and I we let's say we are married and I'm like babe I know you anymore maybe you should try other people outside while I try other people that will actually bring them and fix the relationship back you know that's happen mebody can do realize they can't take different types of mares for each other question of what you just cited now I can't take other people's [ __ ] I STI so they came back together so so what you're saying is that the rough patch all right where they were doing this thing LED them back to two of us alone so it's not that they were together and open was Happ love together is not want to say something to talk to me please you know you said that people cannot actually fall out of love and I disagree with you the question is while in marriage my response to you was that what proved is that what you when you said fall out of love you're referring to the feeling oh the way this person makes my head swell I said all those things are not even designed to last in the first place love is a feel if you're if somebody I was reading a tweet all right where a lady said she was coming down from a bus stop and wife she was coming from the bus stop that she one of those OS mama you look so cute I said that she felt does that this an agu yes by Logic and reasoning um that she will never settle for that guy never but if under the same circumstances continue time that agu is giving her the attention saying the words that she will find herself feeling something for agu but what would that be called it's attraction now it's not love so why would you say that love is not a feeling there are different things that you you can feel love feel hate feel attraction feel disgust what I said see what I said I said love is not a feeling love has a feeling you see you're not the same I'm very philosop true because just use direct words no it's not direct words it's not direct words because if I say if I say mat if I say material is a cap and has a cap they're not the same thing so these are truth these are truths for me I'm sorry but this is where I am I like to think deeper on things I don't like to just words you're giving usulu love you're not giving us the reality giv us hold on isul love you are saying the things that you wish love [Applause] was this I'm talking about he try to say many I know that what I'm saying are you living with them so so so that's your are you so that's your stance to life that's your stance to life your stance to life is that what is publicized is no it's reality radio different but also stadi said is so great doesn't [Applause] new this this podcast we do now this we record now we have said so many amazing things all right but it's only the things that are useless and cannot be taken that people who use I want to ask that's bad that's what people like the society likes evil bad news and so it gives more gains more publicity GS more Thrive that doesn't mean that good doesn't exist yeah ites I I want to ask a question please right sorry please ask your I want to ask all of you because I want to hear you guys your takes okay what is red flag what what are your red flags what would you be in a relationship and you say oh no this my red FL this is my dual breaker this is my red flag is it me that like every one of you L girl Other Woman Flags so you guys have given me your name well what can I say are red flags really like for you for me what would your partner do and you say no or what would you see do you partner or intending partner no red flag is intending partner deal breaker is partner we already here moving out like so what would you see and say no I don't want to go in and what would you see when you're inside and say I'm going out H mhm will you just do one two 3 no no you're yourself why okay you want to think about it yes I do okay go talk what do you think love make I love this lady so much so red flags for me you know the thing is I've gone past red flags ah HH she don't Zoom you have got to New National what do you mean by that what I mean is I don't expect too much from people people anymore right if I see you I like you for the reasons that I like you because I don't really want anything from you apart from what I want your red flags are just for you I don't she's here for the I don't know if it makes sense but I've gone past red flag maybe if I now see somebody that I really want to have something with okay so recently I had um a a dating experience it was an experiment for me I would never date someone that would keep money out of the table in the beginning of the relationship so someone came un to me oh I like you I love you at this I want us to have a relationship and maybe even lead to marriage but I need to get to know you before I can spend money on you and this is me that my aada for delivery has broken down this is me that my people are calling me in the office that we need this we need that and I'm going to grow a relationship with you and you hear me on the phone crying that I need to buy a new bike I need to do this I need to do that and you will just keep quiet and stay in your corner when I finish my call we will continue but does he have it's not even does he have this person has made you understand that I have okay anything you want I will give you but not now you need to show me I need to see that you love me for me and not what I can do for you and don't you think it is valid no it's very that's what I'm saying it's very valid I said no problem I want to date differently that's why I said it was an experiment for me I would never do that but I did for two months almost two months and bike was spoiling every day and me and you will be together we're lying on the bed my head your big head is on my chest I'm rubbing it we're talking well I'm probably even cooking for you to eat but I have issues and you want to get to know me before you can help me when they putting head for your chest already don't know you now that's what I'm saying so why are you telling me I need you need to know that I can love you without money before you will spend money on me I said no problem let me even allow you let me love you without this morning let me see cuz I don't see now let me date differently and see where this one maybe this one are the person when I go marry I said okay let's do this thing we started doing this thing it was going on you know he comes I leave my business I go and chill for the weekend we're growing a relationship that money is not coming but my own money is going in hey m silently cuz like I have to drive I drive to you and then I'm leaving and you can't say sweetie by F me get money you get money you buy me gwag you go call coish make I go carry mot but you need but I need to wait until yourself don't tell you say she's the woman for me how long will I wait he's just stingy I hate stingy man oh do you understand long will I will now you know what was now the deal breaker for me in that space of 6 weeks I was setting up my office and then I needed some things in my office in fact I had even bought one it was an AC that AC standing one of the standing small things I can cool you up that thing was 273,000 in fact they did a refund to me two days ago I had paid for this thing and they were delivering it to me so we're on the bed having conversations and then I'm like um this thing they brought I ordered this thing and he's like show me so I showed he's like this is not air condition this is air cooler mhm and I'm like in my head cuz I saw AC so I assumed it was air conditioner he's like no this is air cooler so I told them okay I don't want anymore refund me my money and he goes oh don't worry I bought um some years ago I have somebody in a labba that can buy that you can buy from so I'm like okay that's fine so in that whole conversation he sent me pictures that the Persona sent to him and then account number for me to pay he sent me the account number CH he sent me account number and I and it was even still the same price these are two different vendors I'm asking for refund here and I'm trying to buy a new one the same price so I'm like I saided doing initiating the transaction assets bank that they say yeah had no g walk I tried to pay it wasn't going through this was like um let's say 3 p.m. I tried making payment like six times cuz I really needed it and it didn't go that was just before the rain started and it didn't go through so in my head I'm like okay but you really did send me this account number you cannot even say babe let me take up this bill for you in my head think they worry me then he come s me make I go make on food ah I okay I'm trying to date differently I made food I saved him food he was eating so I was still trying to do the trans transaction my head they worry me why will you not say let me take up this bill for you so I said okay Bank not work and now put it to him you will help me do this transfer because I'm not going die for silence cuz if you ask me to help you I will so I'm like babe you're going to help me do this transfer my bank is not working and he was like um he didn't say a word he didn't say a word he just said M he was eating so I I said it again because I needed an answer and he's like I shouldn't worry I should put my phone down and try again later maybe next workor and I it was making sound they make sound my my head B I said okay so actually didn't have money sweetie get money I put my phone down and like 10 p.m. I um I think like around 8 so cuz I have someone on the mainland that comes to the island I'm like okay if he pays the guy will just pick it cuz delivery is about like 15K so I'm like this guy would just bring it from so I called the guy I'm like hello just hang on you go pick something for me tomorrow morning when you come hoping that before the morning go done finish the transaction I tried by 10 p.m. it didn't go so I not to them I said babe um is T no can you do this for me he said that first his um trans transaction limit is 100k a day this thing is 273,000 I said no hey you so this it's almost midnight I'm like okay you can do one by midnight tomorrow already reach you run the other one so it's like so who would do the 70k I said I will do the 73,000 while I start he said um cuz we're supposed to depart the next day he's going back to wherever he's going to and me I'm going to my house and he goes um he he cannot that he's traveling now that do I want to leave him stred he what if he needs to do transactions wherever he is it was logical but okay no problem you're trying to date differently now I let it slide say like when I go back to my base I will sort it out brother and sisters that thing was never sort out till I ran do you know that that thing was never sort out so one week after he arrived every day I made a conscious effort to kept reminding him him of WhatsApp so he keept saying um he will call the guy and he never did so I was sitting down and I wanted to see the end of it I'd already paid for the new one in fact I paid after I left that day but I wanted him to do that for me and he was never going to do it he knew that he was never going to do it and didn't bring up the conversation that he was never going to do it so 3 weeks down the line I kept reminding him and I'm like bro what exactly is the problem cuz I was tired I won't be reminding somebody of 273,000 that I have fixed but I'm like what is the problem do you do you want to tell me if you really don't have this money now or maybe there's some there's a reason why you don't want to do this for me am I not deserving of this money you say you have because like you've made me believe that you have a lot of money you've told me about people and I believe you but I want to see the money now cuz I'm not seeing it and he started saying I'm insulting him I asked question they Gaslight me I said you're gaslighting me and I will not think that when you're ready to have a civil conversation you know where to find me so I didn't speak to him for like one week or so and then he called me ab ab I called him no no no okay um one of the nights my staff fainted at work I think some append K so I took him to the hospital so while they were um treating the guy I was stressed so I picked up the phone and I called him and this [ __ ] picked up and I wanted to lament like I have a man I'm going through a hard day I want to just and he oh baby I'm so tired like he was so tired you're tired of what now let me call you if you want to tell me you're tired you would have called me I called you to cry on you and you pamp me he cried more than I cried I just like okay you know what the problem I just hung up cuz I didn't get what I wanted and I hung I'm like this is [ __ ] up but I want to see the end and it got to the point where after that conversation we didn't speak again for like another two weeks I was done with the relationship I was done but AA somehow wanted to see why he wasn't paying for that thing for me and then you know what he said he said the the reason he didn't want he he knew that he was never going to pay for that thing for me that it was a trigger from the girls he had dealt with in the past so that the girls he had dealt with were too demanding they loved him for what he could provide and now he wants someone that will love him for who be the other woman so now me the one you do mean woman don't other man yeah I even age I said no problem let me maybe if I date differently I will see a different result and now the results now I see so he was like it was a trigger to him and he knew he was never going to do it but he didn't he just wasn't going to talk about it so I'm like okay if you knew all along and every day I kept reminding you why didn't you just say you know what I'm not ready to spend money on you so that I can still because you've already told me from the getg go that you're not but if you're telling me you're going to do this for me and I remind you for 3 weeks and you don't want to do it why the [ __ ] are you stressing my head it's 273k I can deal with that in fact I already dealt with that so why the hell are you stressing me and not saying babe I'm just not ready so you will never get into any relationship if the person tells you that let me know you first before I start spending money what does that even mean like what does that even mean they want to kiss is that a thing you you like a girl is not money like you're even crazy enough for me to to take that OPP I would never like I said it was it was an experiment sorry it was intentional for me to be that foolish how how long was this experiment six weeks six weeks and I'm like okay yeah you've seen the end of it there are you still going to go on this Lane if another man comes and tells you love me I will love you but one coobo will not come out the M you guys went from dating to the end in 6 weeks I took it to the end cuz he was not going to have yeah he was not going to have the conversations that needed to propel the relationship further I'm just because six weeks I'm just thinking like me I'm taking no not shorts no I'm talk about spending money no no you can spend money on the very first all the experiences that she just shared like it looked like there's so many time jumps I thought it was 3 months no no six weeks of constant dating you know like you have a relationship and every day you talk on the phone like every day you talk on the before before before before this 6 weeks experience girl talker before this 6 weeks experience you people had known for how long we hadn't known for no how long we oh now that 6 weeks we do six because someone comes outrightly to you and tells you this is what I want I know what I want I want a woman that's going to love me without money then I will spoil her later when I feel like she loves me without money okay so but in the course of these six weeks now before this whole send this money and this the relationship now broke down yeah talk to me what were the things you were looking out for and what were the things you or if you look back now you think he was looking out for like you said that you know he put for your chest you rub for you cook for what be those things when you feel say okay now because of these things I feel say okay this guy they look say I be better person and later start to spend money so now for him you know you meet a lady and she takes most of your boxes right and for me I will only speak for myself I take a lot of boxes H there is no no so he met me in fact he didn't me me he saw me and felt like she made the standard of woman that I want in my life on the long run right I look let me the gramar when I w't speak I don't know he correct if I Cal my head a spe I'm a speck if I Cal my head down I will make a very Good Wife if I choose you that I want to be your wife so he saw that if I can tame this one she will literally be everything I want she'll give me beautiful children I can take her to anywhere I want to take her to and she's making money she's not broke she has something she's doing and she can make so much money if I put in my money that I claim I have in her invest she can multiply my money he say go buy you say go call but from the where you see no no funny enough they are not even bubble they are not cuz now these days I listen I don't talk because what in my eye don't see for relationship I now just sit and let cuz once you talk you start talking too much the Man start talking you see if he's booing you or not he he was real to an extent that's the wealth which was why I decided let me give it a try how did you know he was real because of the conversations we had because of the things he said I could relate to them I could then another thing is is either the money used to be there in not there again that's what I think you understand me because I don't want to call names the money used to be there the talks were in sync with everything I don't be small piing now and this money is money that is close to home so it's money that I'm aware of okay is money that I have heard of is money that so I'm like okay I can love you or G make money no be your money if I love you for three months I can survive now I don't understand if say you wanton take three months to begin spend money on me I Will Survive how much I want I Will Survive and everything I've spent in that three months I will ask you back and you will give it to me so that is not a problem for just wait for another 6 weeks now it complet if has not done transfer within week one now because he not say they don't waste my time no wait true if he has not done transfer yes in a week nothing for then you should know that you should already know how it's going to look see my DM sometimes they'll just be like oh hi say your account details you look so pretty money me I not it I will send it and then maybe if he the money he stive impressed me then I will add him back if he did not impress me thank you what impresses you what how much will impress you how much will impress me I mean CU talking like 1 million or something [Music] with you my brother I want to ask her a question if 1 million is going to impress you how many men comes to your DM to impress you with 1 million I'm saying just to begin the conversation I understand what you're saying cuz my DM 1 million for St my DM probably bubbles more than I have to like it up so that the people that are watching when they are coming to meet me they one mil that I said thank you that was a strategic move okay so if it was a strategic an intentional move no need to per fine that's okay I have a question for you maybe questions yes I'm interested in you personally I know do you think side chicks um make marriages last of course they do why do you think so what what do they specially do that makes marriages last because to me I see I see it that they scatter marriages they don't tell me how do they keep marriages what value what value do they bring okay so um we're going to use Legos as a case study and then from my own personal experience if you live ony Expressway you live between Phase One to a further down you know that there is traffic on that route now let's say your husband you and your husband you live in vigy and I live where I live Shevon a c Villa now he's been on that traffic from VI wherever his office is Boom if he's driving even worse he has a driver Hallelujah at least he he's not stressing so much he drives and gets to Chevon and gets to me and I'm at home maybe I just I've been at home all day most people walk from the house I've been at home all day I'm freshly looking um I know he's coming so I probably just took a shower sprayed a nice colon one something really flattery because I know he's coming and he arrives pulls over outside or anywhere and I'm by the door to open the door for him he comes inside I hug him I give him a p depends on how he made me feel the previous day so he comes inside and I I'm asking him hey baby how are you how was work did your day go okay while I'm doing that I'm taking off his shoes you know like he seed I'm taking off his shoes if he's wearing socks obviously taking it off and then giving him a little foot massage while pep talking him about how he's they went and I'm attentive to listen to him vent about what happened in the office and what didn't happen and after that and you know in all of these conversations I probably would have moved from his legs and I'm sitting on him this the wife won't do at home in most cases some wives will do it oh the wives that are intentional the wife that have said okay me too I'll be baby girl I can do this thing I know how to do it it's just that I don't have time but she doesn't have time me I have the whole day I have the whole time in the world because that is how he sees me every time he comes so he's used to that pamper that he probably doesn't get at home so I'm sitting on his laps he's grabbing my bath or he's seeing my bath my niples are all over his face available for him to touch right and I'm smelling good do you understand me so he likes what he's saying likes the the full attention that I'm giv to him undivided for that 45 minutes or 30 minutes that he's spending with me he is my priority he is number one I'm not even if I'm leaving him is probably to go get him a glass of juice if he drinks whiskey a glass of whiskey or maybe get his food or whatever that is in the house available but the point is there is a relationship that is very intense in a very short period of time it could be tighten minutes that he spends with me but that 30 minutes I'm not leaving him alone in that 30 minutes I'm all over his business in that 30 minutes I'm making my demands he's making his everybody is collecting whatever they want to collect from each other and what is he getting attention sex romance that's it that's all the married man wants from the woman outside anyways so how does that keep his marriage at home good so when he leaves me he spends 45 minutes with me he's calm he's relaxed whatever heat is at home he can deal with it calmly he can deal with it way better than if he just drove from the office in that traffic and he goes home straight he'll be angry he'll be agitated he'll be like you know what I just want to go upstairs and rest but when he has spent that quality time with me whatever Madame is saying at home is fine this is interesting I have a second question The Other Woman is a sh I have a second question for you interesting said is interesting but I also have a question I tell you can you take a man from a woman based on I mean you're highly skilled mhm I am I am yeah I mean she's not denying it can you take a a man from you do you think that you have the capability of actually taking snatching taking you know and keeping for myself um I'm not saying you want to do that now you think you have that capability or are you saying do women have the capability or do the other women have the capability do you think that the other women why do you think a man that has a mistress for a while and decides he wants to make her his wife again the way she makes him feel I'm going to go into sex a little bit tell me more tell me more Mommy the kind of sex men have with their wives is different from the one they have outside Godly sex right it's the sex outside the primary thing that keeps that man coming back is the sex it's not anything the sex he gets outside is toally different from the sex even if he has a crazy wife inside but the sex outside is there some man will tell you I cannot can I use [ __ ] I say say say this is will tell you I cannot [ __ ] my wife in a certain way it will make her look like a [ __ ] but I can [ __ ] The Other Woman however I want I can turn her upside down because she's not my wife some would say I I have respect for my wife so I can't touch her in a certain way but they've the woman even want you to touch them in that way but because you feel like she's your wife you don't want to now push too much you can go outside I had a friend and we were talking one day and I'm like um I think what was that conversation about was about sex but I think sex okay the wife lives oversea and he's in Lagos so I'm like you go away for 6 months and how does your wife cope and he's like she doesn't do anything she waits for me I'm like okay so do you even buy her sex toys you know he's like no he can never do that I'm like why it's like if she gets used to sex toy she won't I'm not going they important to her again I'm like no sex toy is different now you it's just you not being he said I know my wife if I introduce her to sex toy it's shut down for me but you're here chasing around small small girls and your wife is in oboo being lonely nobody is touching her and you know that she's there faithful for you and the least that you can do to introduce her to sex story you say no you see how selfish men can be H what what the craziest craziest sex you've you know had you know had yes yeah I mean with somebody you know that there's somebody at home waiting for him never now you supposed to sit that I cannot pick a particular one I I cannot you know I teach sex too right yeah I cannot pick a particular one I I have I enjoy sex all what was the one that you had that made you when you I mean I mean you went when the person left or when you went back to Bas you were like God I want to go and get my feelings back oh okay let me let me this one it was in my former apartment and it was in my bedroom and he God so my wardrobe was open and he like he shoved my head inside so like part of my head was inside the Wardrobe and then my butt is out so you're not seeing you're just seeing the I'm shorry oh my God and there's probably a mirror by the side a so so you know he would almost never do that at home like there's a view that will leave rentree in his head for the longest time and even if he tries to replicate that the wife people are you crazy why are you shoving my head down the Wardrobe I can take that but the woman at home will probably not want to take that because why you treating me this way sorry guys I won't ask any other question you know that sorry you know that this is a followup question you know I asked you a question and I said do you feel like you have or the other women have the capacity to take the man from yes but then you said they keep Mar keep you know no no I mean that's those are different but you said also that they don't do that at home because they feel like they respect their wives if he feels like he can shove your head scatter it throw it I mean do you think that somebody he does that to he would want to keep since he respects the one he kept sweetie it's for excitement you know when you're dating a married man you know what you're going in for again people get dulu and feel like I'm dating this married guy he's going to marry me and then you start not being who you are you now want to pretend so that he can see the good in you and finally love you and say I will chase my wife for you a lot of married men don't chase their wives for anybody if they want to get married to you as a second wife is their decision it's not because they want to chase their wife no is because they want you they want to have a relationship you for a long time or probably just get you pregnant and make you a baby mama that's what they do in most cases they get you pregnant they don't have to marry you they get you pregnant you have a son for them and you know that relationship is forever so they have access into your life whenever they want to I meet a lot of people that tell me I want you to have a baby for me and I tell you no I don't want to have a baby for you or for anyone I'm not interested in having children at least not now and even if I want to have children surrogate works for me cuz this body that you see that I try to keep every day I go to the gym I each write I'm not about to rein it because of a baby when I have options that can give me a baby so now back to um the woman outside taking a man away yes he can and if a man feels like I respect my wife to not [ __ ] her in a certain way but you are my girlfriend I can [ __ ] you however I want it's because of excitement he's with you in the first place for excitement there nothing other than that unless you now he now see something different in you which is that sex that he can shove you around that is part of it because he knows that with his wife I can't do this but you even if I end up marrying you I can have this crazy and wild sex with you right that's dicey no but that is the truth I have clients that call me and tell me um my wife makes move I don't like it I like when I make the move and I initiate sex I don't like when the wife initiates sex and I tell you why W you want your wife to initiate and he's like it's me I don't if she initiates sex I can't keep an erection because I feel like I'm being chased I'm the man I want to do the chasing I want to want to have sex with looks see your gender are real people I don't think it's a gender thing get jealous they get more than single guy with the other woman yes oh no they get so jealous their jealousy is out of the roof but that's the thing when you make it clear to them that when they know you don't want them too much when they know that you're not looking to get to the end with them they get jealous but you don't care because yo you have a wife at home why the [ __ ] are you being jealous married man they jealous it's G Madness because because die because what because there's no love not selfishness it's very it's crazy I've had an beginning I've had an experience where there was this guy I was saying and during covid we had a beautiful relationship but then money became an issue and I started seeing someone else and um he he wait the beauty the beauty in the relationship beuty the beauty in the relationship was before money became the issue was the money he was spending that was my point like what have to offer no no no no no what I'm saying is no it wasn't even a bad the relationship wasn't about money but when I needed the money in the relationship it wasn't forcoming like I would wanted and then I'm like okay so if we're having all this good time and you can't even support me I'm growing a little business man I need all the support in this world so if I'm loving you and you're shoving my head down the Wardrobe and then you can't support me what the [ __ ] am I doing with you and you have a wife that you're doing everything for so why are you eating your cake and having I'm giving you a blast you don't have sex at home and every day you come to work viom you're in my house and because I like you they sweet me they sweet you I Know M is fine I'm Nobody's Wife I'm happy doing whatever I'm doing with you we have a relationship and then I need something and you cannot provide that because you feel like yes I'm making money but it's not even enough so point is I started seeing someone and he got a wind of it and um I'm trying to describe how jealous you people can be so he I was working the other person out of my gate and he had he drove I think he drove whatever and then he saw me coming out of my gate and was seeing the other guy into the car so he drove like he was living and he honked so like he hon I turned and I saw that it was him the other guy didn't understand what was going on but he was like what is going on why are you with another man who is that man that was the whole H like so he drove went to the front and parked he knew person was leaving so the guy left and he drove back so I was so the guy packed in my packing space so I'd gone to drive and then pack and he came behind and blocked me and like so you're going to say you didn't see me H yes I didn't see you and it's like okay so so so like that's how much jealousy men can really exhibit like why the [ __ ] are you blowing that much honk when there is space nobody's blocking you could just drive past but you wanted cuz the guy even noticed I'm like why is that mad person say my boyfriend is and you were like oh who is that I don't know hey so like you guys can really be very jealous and it's C the question I wanted to ask no what IED to ask was before it's okay the question was about when you said do they help marriages last longer and she said yes yes we do and I was like I don't think so why because there's what we call forbearance you know there a reason why why is it that let's imagine the two of you were married why is it that you can put up with her there many reasons there's the society but Society get way reach you say I can do this no more all right and there is the fact that I married this person I just take him do you understand lack of options you know I just stay here the moment this person is giving you that Su that you know attention your your tolerance levels for this person greatly reduced thank you that's what I wanted to you know so your tolerance level for your wife is now reducing because you know that what is her use to you now whatever she's doing for you or what you can get it from and that's why many guys they marry this mistress like I love how she put it it's just spending 45 minutes 45 minutes anybody can be good in 45 minutes anybody 1 Hour 2 hour to know the other part of you and that's why some married men get to that point and now they're comparing they're telling their wives you know may the feet of anger that's why prefer this like other women yeah there another kind of thing because they have seen this woman 247 but see finish you understand so this guy and that's when they marry the mistress they get another mistress because a discipline issue never ends my question to her is this kind of Life how practicable is it for the true happiness that you know we desire are you asking me a question yes you this Other Woman married man life how practicable is it in terms of true fulfillment and happiness say I again mindset where you are at a particular time I give you a time frame I said by the time I turn 40 I am probably tired not tired I probably have gotten what I wanted from dating a specific kind of people married don't you think also I this is you have answered that question already with what you just said but I'm thinking followup question have you ever wondered that maybe when I'm 40 and I'll look back at the past and like what regret yeah no no futuristically saying you don't think or when you have kids S no because I haven't done anything wrong that my mates are not doing so is that your thank you defition like I the beginning I when I wanted to date the I said at the beginning does cuz I said your definitions Define your morality so is your defition of right and wrong what everybody is doing and what everybody is not doing is that what is right or wrong no it's what works for me cuz I can still end up marrying somebody's husband so what work is what is working for you is now spoiling it for the spoiling anything for anybody bro married man's wife she doesn't even know me I don't even exist what if she gets to know you wait how do you problem do you even think that do you think let's be let's be honest here do you think that a woman mhm that is married to a man and the man has a side Chek do you think the woman does not know yes there are women who don't know genuinely or she just doesn't want toate woman don't know the way God are very sneak are you are you telling me telling them there are some women that will swear to you that their husbands are not having an affair swearing to you their heart no no no people are like that they ref AC no no no something about the perfect men at home you don't understand they can play this card bance that case this is my question in that case where this guy is a perfect guy at home his wife doesn't know that he's a cheat I mean his wife doesn't know so you cannot say we're not saying that you are a problem to the family yet but you are a threat M because yes eventually one of will happen maybe the guy people will change because of this thing I'm saying so my question to you is that how do you live with yourself knowing that for you to just say it's not your business you know it is that question why are you not worried about how the man that is chasing me around that no the man is already clearly in the wrong all right the man is clearly listen you only talk about I can only talk to you about what decisions you have control over you don't have control over a man coming to meet you but you have control over responding to that if the man if the man is here if the man is here I will tell him guy you are messing up why are you going to another get but I'm saying that the man is clearly in the wrong and the man is already a faulty guy meaning that he could have done it with any other lady but he did it with you the fact that it was you was that you agreed for it to be you so I'm saying why are you not not why are you putting yourself in that position to be with that useless man or she said that's what's convenient for her now so your convenience that's why we get to that you don't enter my trap everybody M so that means your convenience you are comfortable with your convenience thoroughly inconveniencing another person why should I worry about I feel like person so that's selfish you got to be selfish to get what you want from life there's no love CL really that we're living in there is really no love but you can decide to love more people no [Music] no any only people that genuinely love you kids and your family and God and is your husband not your family sweetie marriage survive without love survive is not enough do we want to survive or do we want to thrive if you are saying survive anybody can people come on now people they relationship with person way just beat them do everything abuse is the in quot the marriage the abuse in the marriage in quot the marriage they survive surviving yes but is that a marriage that you people they every 3 days they survive now but the life you won live I'm saying that the another angle is the man go come out the man really has to be a list generator because the man will go out and probably exhaust his energy on satisfying you sexually or himself sexually and he comes back home to a woman that also needs to be satisfied no you know they touch your wife you know they will go 6 months without no for the home to be at peace in a place of peace I mean it means you are servicing everybody and everybody is happy if the home is happy most women are not even troubl sweetie let me cut you short don't be surprised a lot of women don't want to be touched at home hey who touching them then their husband no no no they don't see their husband goes to work and comes back and they're not up for him touching them they don't want so who is touching them then I don't know who's touching them but there are women at home that their husbands make passes at them tries to touch them and they are not in trste so it's not just the man thing it's two ways some women don't want to be touched some men don't even make plans of touch because they've already touched somebody outside and they're satisfied but at home some women too don't make it easy for their husbands to touch them you know you know that for for for for women no I'm I'm not speaking for all women but some women from my experience you jump start you can not just come and start touching the woman not know thing to do no wait see what I talk what I talk say if you with the woman e not be waiting you go just come back house after you don't do traffic 3 hours with your other woman if something you don't build since Monday and Thursday you go reap the reward because you the relationship where you get with side chiek is different is different from what you get you where you walk you traffic 3 hours your wife probably maybe went to work or did her business came back she has tended to the children she may think of yes now she she to stressed out but now only your own you think about now only you they give for your with your that is why when he goes out and has gotten that attention from the woman outside he gets home he's not entirely bothered about how the wife is reacting at home because even that woman she's tired she don't pick children from school she don't cook she don't BFF them if n n even if n but she's tired from whatever she's been doing during the day and she just wants to rest it takes a different breed of women to still want to have something to do at night with their husband and that's why I tell women make sure you marry a man that loves you at night when he comes home at night he wants to spend quality time with you whether you're sleeping even if he comes back midnight you are awake even if you spend 5 minutes with him having a conversation that night relationship is very important but if the other woman don't collect the love when carry from traffic come which one he won't give her for night because they already have that relationship at the beginning of their whatever before they got married okay that pattern is there so when he changes you can easily tell and then you can have decent and real realistic conversations about we used to do these things at night what happened you don't I was listening to a sitcom yesterday three women having tea and she was like my husband I think every night that the husband comes home they have sex at night so there was a particular night he came and he just went straight to bed and she and he slept and she went to the shower and she was crying so her friends didn't know this part so she was like she thought her husband was cheating and like that's supposed to be normal so they didn't know that what she meant was they they used to have sex every day for 18 years of their marriage the only night that he came back and went to sleep straet she thought he was cheating and it was normal for couples not to have sex every night to the two friends but for her it wasn't normal cuz they do it every freaking it doesn't matter how tired s far he's home they must have sex before they go to bed and when she's MRA in what happens they figure maybe he gives she gives him [ __ ] he comes and sucks whatever but somehow they are intimate people have people people have sex in fact some people even encourage sex so let's talk about red flags red flags you go see the flag the flag big like the one Zen Bank headquarters but some people are going to see the red flag walk through it that red flag when they see come with money by the the red flag they even they attract them come why is it that people ignore obvious red flags obvious red flags and decide that you know some will tell you oh I have grown to know that you know I no if he can cheat outside but he will come back to me change he will change he will change intent on Whose part on the lest part so if you meet a guy and there's a very strategic billboard like red flag strategic and she's seen that this is red flag but because of what she wants and she knows not necessarily be money the money be it may not be money but uh 80% of the time is money so when she sees that that thing is at the end of that tunnel and she's been through fire anyways so this particular fire get me to that tunnel to get that thing I want I will walk through the Shadows nothing will happen so she has gone past no no it's not me it's not me so she has seen the end of it and be like you see this red flag not really the kill person R FL not the kill so I I I saw this there was this interaction of young people and the lady was asked which she would prefer if her boyfriend goes out to cheat and has a baby or if her boyfriend catches an STI STI have a baby and she said and start his family okay wait you said he should go and have a baby and start you say s is treetable oh good talk to me let's have it so wait you prefer say make no make makeing no go outside go give if make you bring STI come if you can go outside and get somebody pregnant you can bring H but in the situation where I have to pick one yes he say you don't give this this relationship as I don't produce picking or he carry STI come I'm only going to pick STI if he can have an honest conversation with himself and treats himself that I don't know that he has s but he must have given it to you now because if he carry him now still do something if he carries it and gives it to me again it's treatable it's not the end of the world if he gets somebody pregnant if he gets somebody pregnant and the person is growing that baby and the child is born he has a lifetime commitment to that person so is it not better to remove yourself from the equation no darling it's not every time you remove yourself from the equation there are women that have been with their husbands for 10 years she would not leave the man because he got marriage is not supposed to be about how much you can really go through how much trauma you can it's not but that is what it is that's not when you go through that and come out and they finally marry you they call you a winner it's a choice call you a winner it's a choice strong woman it's a marriage is a whatever your husband dishes out to you is your choice I want to take it or I don't want to take it if you don't want to take it you go then you go and then you become second you become the next woman to the other man that has a wife so it's very very you I know that my husband is cheating I leave him and then I start dating somebody else's husband HB so the circle just continues that's why single they didn't a lot somebody a lot of people that are single cannot provide like people that are married that's the difference that's if you're dating for provision now you're married for provision if you leave your husband that cheated on you and you go outside what are you looking for you might have your money you just don't want to [ __ ] with him because he cheated but you're [ __ ] with somebody else that has a wife why would I because of provision you might not you might I mean it's not in this case you can decide to date anybody not a married want to Mar you know you said you want to marry a mar you want to [ __ ] with a married person because you feel like they can provide that's why I'm tell you that you might live that relationship and you want to be with a married man because your your idea is not provision because I'm leaving that Mar because he cheating that's 10% of what women will do are you saying 0 are you saying 90% of women um in Lagos with Lagos as a case study are you saying that 90% of women that leave their husbands because their husbands are cheating end up with married men yes C it's not C babe not C it's not anywhere so wait you're saying that the scenario is the woman was married then she leaves her husband because he's a cheat and then she decides to start dating married men that has money more than the husband that's how the circle goes you cannot leave your husband that can provide this is even this is even coming from a place of a woman that actually seriously needs a amount to provide for her me I come from a family where since I've been a little girl they have always told me no PR CH is coming for you although everybody wants to believe that yes someone is going to come and it's going to provide for you but I believe that I want to have my own so that even when I enter a marriage God forbid and I say it's not working out I want to leave I have my own things going on I don't need to now go and put myself wait let me finish I don't need to put myself in a position where I now need to be looking for another provider I feel like that's the mistake a lot of girls the person that comes into your DM to impress you with 1 million who is that person you said must come into your let me tell you something and tells you you're to my mil give me 1 million is that person not brands that are coming to me with times three or I'm tell you like no brand is you that's what I'm saying bus this is person I don't come from when I look at people when I look at men I don't come from a place of ah if if I don't find this if I don't if I don't find someone to give me this and this and this I'm never going to get it like I feel like if I don't find someone to get it for me I will get it by myself of course that's how it's supposed to be exactly so the 90% of women that will leave their husbands that provides everything for them and even sends their children to one of the best schools in Lagos and they discover that their husbands are cheating and then they live you know Lagos is a very crazy City that if you think you have money somebody else has money so when that woman leaves the husband that is aely okay for me and okay for you she's not going to settle for anything less than that and the next man that is coming to her already knows that she has higher responsibilities so he wants to give her what the husband was not giving to her that is why she would not want to be with a single guy that will want love over money because even as that her husband is paying the children's school fees and paying the rent the new person is still going to pay those bills again again yes of course it's part of it now tell me more yes now uhuh because she will still go back to the new guy and say I need to pay my child's school fees I need to pay my rent I need to change my car I need to go on holidays with my children that's why they don't go down they go up they dat higher they they know that this bill is settled their hus their ex-husband settled those bill but the extra money is for the lifestyle the extra money is for maintenance the extra money is why they post on Instagram and the husband that isn't there anymore feels like she's Bing she's Bing okay so they don't date downward they dat they go higher okay so your your point is that a married lady that leaves her husband is going that provides because he cheated is going to go for another mared Prov that provides more I don't think so you don't know well it happens I think this is very I just wanted to say this is very this hypothesis you know we're trying to create an hypothesis for different individual choices but where I disagree with is where you say 90% I don't think I maybe the is right that's a lot of people it does happen but it's not so so so so I think so a woman who whose marriage was broken by a woman outside will now still come outside and now break another person's marriage times happen so so like like children so like likea said you there's no empirical data to support that but there's more but but the percentage is high the thing is with maybe stories you see online and like for example there are people who would come and say in Legos we are dating the dating pool there people there are people who say that you know when they say such you are like I live in I live in when did this one happen but they're speaking about a particular Circle and that is what happens there you know but to I mean you can argue for you can argue against you know my own argument is everything I argue about or say is because I have seen I've been in the circle of people I have experienced people right so by the nature of what what I do and by me being a social bed I come in contact with a lot of married people friends whether I'm intimate or not but I have people I have friends that are married and we have conversations male and female and I can tell you for free that if a woman leaves her husband that provides very much like he provide he's not broke when she leaves that marriage because of cheating not anything else or cheating oh if she goes to date another person if she says she wants to date for love and date a single guy is not it's not more than two women in 10 that we date for love okay so you're making you're making a fundamental F generalization in the sense that you're thinking that somebody that is single because forget people there are so many single sing they not scared at all they hold very single men very rich to spend then again when you say you know your this is based off your pool of many people I mean come on wherever you go all right depends on where you're pulling if you go if you go un lag cast net eh eight out of 10 people go be students yes M because of the space you know so they are likeminded people in that space so you can't if you want to make a true or people they do data research they know now you got spread your so you're not limiting yourself to different particular set yes you go see men question not okay I don't want to say this but if you go if you go places like maybe we they perform for places now we they go places you know and you see married men there plenty married men there comedy clubs plac around and the married men there are just alone there I mean if you trust a net there you're going to get a type of married men TR us so that's my point married man keep coming for the shoes but I'm just saying like what if you are actually looking at it from that perspective because that is where you are you understand that's all that around you Me Now from my church out of 10 eight I will give you a different true true because of my Circ see I don't say things that I don't know or things that I'm not familiar just your perspec I'm not doub your neither am I doubting your experience I'm just saying you making that your experience a a base a principle base or you understand I'm saying maybe faulty because it might there may be bias in your you have to be realistic for see I'm a reality we always it's realistic realistic what is reality a woman will not be with a man that does not pro provide so who told you that there are single men that cannot provide there are single men that can provide right but if a woman lives her husband 80% of the time she immediately does not want to get married again okay she might want to get married later but instantly no as she's living she wants to explore and the only person she can explore with is with another married man that's no truth there is so many I'm not discarding you guys need to understand me I'm not discarding I don't want to go back I'm not discarding single man I'm saying most of the time they will pick the married ones over the single ones why there are more advantages there they don't want anything serious there just the money so but if they want to go for L they will go for the single single ones because they know if they go for the married guy he already has a family and wouldn't want anything that serious this explanation because she says in the immediate person is not looking to Mar person doesn't want anything serious can give them money even to marry S I know they even to marry they're not looking to marry they just came out most times what you just came out of something like that are you quick to enter another drama version of it yeah some people do some people jump into some people don't mind I seen you some people are they high percentage that's my point the argument is the majority clause which I'm saying is not really true I think it's the other way around even if they decide to be with a single guy it will be a younger single guy it won't be the 55 years old man that is divorced and single it won't be the 4 but the young single so that now brings me back to if they decide to be with the younger single guy the single guy is not providing at all because as far as Nigeria is concerned deed you not figed out your life they just want to have F they just want they just want a strong C that can give them bum bum bum bum so this this red flag now for for a lot of people for a lot of people what what what the what what they get for them what they get would make them ignore ignore a lot of a lot of things that in the past they might have said what they think they will get because at the end of the day that relationship will really know cuz there's red flag and people don't change overnight if a man is silly he's silly then I me him I'm delusional enough to think that okay he has a lot of money he can spoil me and I'm letting go of the father that he's silly I know that he's silly he shows it to me every time we're out but I ignore that him being s silly because I know that I can ask him for money and he will give it to me and he gives it to me so what the [ __ ] am I doing with him being silly do you think that somebody that divorced several times is a red flag yes someone that's divorced a lot of times is a red flag and also not a red flag because he's not a red flag in the sense that because he has been married and it didn't work out doesn't mean that he's not capable of staying married right it's just not the right person so if they are family oriented enough to want to keep getting married until they find the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with they will keep doing that people do whatever they want to get what they want if I have to do it 30 times you do it until I meet the right one and and people don't understand because it is marriage it's a lot of be marriage now no no no because no you're trying to build your business start school that's what I'm saying you go to school you fail you read you fail you read you so why is it different because it's Mar very different because when you read you fail you read fail you the one failing it's only you you're just the one you read you fail you start a business it crashes you're the one failing you're the one that started you're dealing with people I know but those are customers customers are not coming or they are coming it's your business yeah but the business faing that your business is failing but when you enter a marriage these are two people and this guy has been with two people he divorced why he goes to this one he divorced why he goes to this one he divorce why go so you no my question is I'm not saying that people that are divorced more multiple times cannot you know the fact that you're making it look as though and you keep on trying trying trying not be not be SIM card not try try try till it works no this marriage you just a jump from this guy to this guy so you you are you feel so free to make lifetime commitments to several people that's an issue now like it is there's something about need to pause when they too close one year doing he needs to pause and come down and say wait what I need to calm down what am I I should focus on myself that's even indicative that he has a choosing problem because for him to have chosen three times and not gotten it right what makes you think you're the right choice you know somebody it doesn't have to be a he it can be a how choose and you keep choosing and you keep choosing the wrong people are you not ruling out that you can never choose the right person no no no I'm saying because they say four seven times four seven times you make mistakes seven times and the e one will work a red flag a red flag is an alarm that triggers when somebody says this thing that ah this could go wrong so when somebody like you said it talks too much ah your guard is up now you before you were all in the bo once you have seen that red flag your attention is now up now you're scrutinizing more because of you have seen a red flag if somebody has divorced five six seven times and he's coming to you and you say that that doesn't you know make you to now look and inquire actually ladies they do and pass they the ones that invest investigative journalist they want to know all your past why did he fail and they're looking for patterns with theirself today this is my experience with you is there something that you do constantly in all this because if somebody is not wise enough to choose you have to confirm that he has gotten the wisdom in choosing before you now settle that oh this is the guy I want to be with if not you will be number eight divorce that's what it is but then it's not the end of the world okay so is that your are this is a different thing are you saying that life goes on in your own opinion because of divorce is not the end of the world then what that can happen we just how about works with your tongue they're good yes because it doesn't so how would you know it to work if you don't try how you work if you don't try FL red flag you can still walk through theed FL because no no we we talk like say marriage now Boutique you just see so how much 40K you just wear so be you know so when you go and you want to get married there are many trials before you actually even say I want to marry this person you have tested in different ways both unconsciously consciously you have tried to check different things before you say I want to do forever with for you to say till death over again like there is something they say about marriage you can never know everything facts good now wait I'm getting somewhere you can never know everything I might be dating you that's why some people they've dated for 10 years and they just do one year marriage and it ends right now mhm if it has happened to me once and I go into the next person and and you know the next one and I do it too and it fails probably what the person showed me that made me think of next level with the person when we get into the marriage it wasn't there it wasn't there so you did not evaluate after the so how much can you evaluate what is 100 Z that supports my claim that there's a choosing problem because when you are dating somebody you ought to they say they say date intelligence that means you are choosing the wrong person over and over [Applause] again yet how do you know you're choosing the wrong people how do you actually know you div every time now you reach one point can what if then they leave have issue why I won't make myself they leave me I have an issue I leave them I have an ISS that's why such such a person ought to pause something happens to you times of the world life goes on so is that the no I'm just saying do we go through life do we go through life saying we taking I mean my brother even if I'm sorry to say if if you go back if you have kids five kids and something happens you sadly you lose the five kids in one day it's not the end of the world life goes on but you don't go through life having that probability in your mind that one day I can lose my five kids because of life goes on it's not the end of the world I'm trying to say that that idea that divorce is not the end of the world life goes so that's why I should be relaxed with the choice no I have to be very intentional because even though there's nothing that life doesn't go on except if your life goes no matter what happens to you life goes on so my brother you can't go through life with the mind that oh life goes on it's not that deep it's deep because you don't want to be sad you don't want to be frustrated you don't want to be unhappy your happiness is important so if somebody has divorced 1 2 3 4 five times and you're not asking important questions you're not in I mean Comm on if somebody has those of you they do if you have never done HR they apply for job you see say it Go the first company two months it come out 3 months they question now that interview is a different kind of interview because the question you're asking are asking can you do it you're asking you be doing you want to know because this has shown a trend of lack of commitment to a place same thing with marriage what if he the person is the one in the company that say no I stand for the truth and then they now chase him let tell us let him tell us five times the conversation this is what he's saying the conversation will be different so for example you have a plug and play format like oh what are you you have seen the person's resumee you're asking what value would you add but if you see person where be say XYZ company January to February then march to April the question you ask them go different from what are you bring to the what they make you move to other that's what he say more and so because of his marriage he B tells you oh it wasn't me it was just them you know they don't understand they don't just get me so who are you you need to who is this mystery of you that are you a people figure you out so it's a red flag is something that you need to pause and think you know say oh I not really out that be good your red flag is not my red flag how about that oh no no no problem everybody because yes a red flag just like they say there is the truth and there is my truth is there the red flag and my red flag your red flag the red flag so what I think would you consider this the red flag several for me I think that not my red flag for me right I'm going to tell you the honest truth and I don't care who perceives it that's wrong if I see you you're a man and I love you and I want to be with you I don't care if you've been with 20 ex it don't matter I'm going to go in let ex because I want to be happy red flag is not Breer and if you make that time I'm sticking with you 20 wives and guess what 20 Ex-Wives he has been married 20 times yes he has been married 20 if I love you I will marry you that's my man so that's flag is not deal breaker this what I wanted to say is a red flag but it might not need to be a deal breaker I'll marry you okay so if I love you we have had you and you're good to me and and secondly sorry there's something too that I want to clarify here that it didn't work between myself and tone it work with another does not mean because you could see your ex he's living his happiest life just because probably the other person or the other people did not understand him or maybe they like M my younger brother is very annoying but I tell you I can live with myund my younger brother for 100 years now your brother now your brother from Rel I'm giving an example I'm giving an example I'm giving an example he's a human being we have a relationship but is your brother now no there are some people that will sit here and tell you that oh their H their their younger brothers they can't stay with their younger brothers there are people that I mean I have friends that say they can't live with their younger ones but I can live with my one do you understand it could be annoying to anybody else to my mom my mom will always shout but I can so at the end of the day it's all boils down to I can coexist with you I I really piss this person off but you so thing is personalities so I could meet eight yellow yellow and then I meet one yellow black boom and we BL okay interesting so but if I stop at 6 or 7 how will I meet Maring all of them one by one because he wants to be responsible because the person wants to be resp that you said this that you said now is more like ex like oh we're dating marriage it's not in marriage [Music] Mar re no not everybody not everybody do the woman walk down the five times I love a man I will marry if it's good to me many you can dat somebody and they treat you so badly and they dat the next woman amaz my but my point is that I'm not ring that out I'm just saying that if somebody is known for dating treating a human has dating very badly if he comes to you I'm not saying you should close the door say get out no you're not an idiot open your eyes and look you show [Applause] your ask you something I ask you something I ask ask repented I ask you of personality type you have to be sure I want ask you something you start dating a girl and she tells you that she's slept with her body count is crazy is a she slept with almost a 100 men or 200 men you don't know them you don't know the men in which you who told you that you marry an ex excuse me if you marry an ex prostitute yes her body count is like 200 let's even go let's see or yeah and she told you she's you know okay what would you do first first thing I'm going to do because most likely I'm the one that came to her right and I'm the one that was proposing the relationship she told me this she has been with 200 men first question I want to ask is why was it 200 what do you mean why was it 200 what kind of question hold onow me to learn why do you because somebody has had somebody has had body with 200 people you're asking what is it okay maybe 200 is too much a number no is fine let's say she's been with 60 men 60 men even if she has been with two men and she told she she thought it wise to tell me that I've been with two men I want to know first things most men want to know first things first who are those two men who were they to you was it casual was it serious let me seriously okay what is what is the state yes in her lifetime that's people allow me because she has dated 50 people seriously hey maybe how long maybe she's just 23 and done it 50 times tce twice twice something AG weeks so so if somebody is dating to two weeks MH I need to know do you have commitment issues number one number two is it the case of maybe you there's a way you want you're addicted to variety I need to know so I know what I meant you so I don't expose myself to Hur if the lady is telling you that oh me I just you know when I'm not just when it's just pressure I just stop you know that mean I can't go into what if in what if it's a case of let let's leave 60 let's say your somebody is coming to you right or you want to get into a relationship with somebody and the person has dated 10 people in 5 years 10 people in 5 years five years yes question is and I may not ask this question I'm saying now I may not ask it directly how who will you ask if not your partner no no no I may not ask directly because some things there's some things that you get through there's some things you get through information through conversation you get conversation you can get to know the's what maybe needy person are there void in the person's life that person is trying to feel with this relationship that is trying to jump jump jump what is this person looking for from conversating with the person that's why I'm not big on that's why six weeks amazed me because I'm saying I need to get to know this person doesn't mean I'm if we go out then again you know people that be a red flag for you would you say you wouldn't date because I mean she been with those for me for me a red flag is an indicator of likely failure so I need to watch it so even if I before I was still like this if I see red flag I I sit up like that are you going to give a r the red flag a chance there's nobody because of I'm a Christian I don't rule out anybody okay that's good all right so if somebody tells me for the fact that I'm not a fool I don't just go to people there's something I saw about you I'm not looks driven there something I saw about you that made me to say hey I want to start being you I want to get close on this level so my question is if you came from this okay but I'm seeing this person okay why why is there a disparity I have to seek to know do you get so I'm not going to say ah no no just close the door the of time that you seek to know before you now finally say okay this one now is humans are different now so why are you worried so why are you worried about the short time I was worried about it because the length of experience that's this is where we are different do you the length of experience an experiment um is experiment experience no so that you get it CL experiment for no no for you it was an experimential experience for you was an experiment was exp fight do you get so I'm saying for the depth not yeah depth of experiences not that theyve already shared in such a short time time you can share a lot in one week and for somebody that you just met yes do you get what I'm saying that's that's that's where we are different saying because some of us meet some men in the start talking to some men in the morning by evening we feel like we want to marry them feel like but do you go ahead and Mar because you're creating an image is great you can meet somebody today and just from the I mean I'm tell you you can't r that out first conversation I knew this person was my wife or was my husband and is it can happen when my dad met my mom he said he said to her how far I want to marry you my mother said just like that please I have a boyfriend in un my father said do you want to do boyfriend or you want to marry I will come back tomorrow please with my answer they still together today he giving energy so when when did they marry two weeks after that my dad met my mom in December by the end of January married yes I knew what he and my mom and my dad it's very possible now that's so so possible want marry that's so possible because he like I said he knew what he wanted he knew himself and knew what he wanted and the woman too knew herself and knew what she wanted with think for un talk anything hband can IE thank you so much very grateful you know what funny we don't this don't last 3 hours get off here if we continue like we don't do 3 hours grateful we super grateful we're thankful for you know everyone that followed us from the start up until this time I I'm very certain that you have learned now it's important to know that we all have our personal opinions and you can express yourself share it but importantly you know conversations like this go day but if you have not learned anything it is to love yourself first first know what you want very importantly and number two know what you are getting into don't be carried away you feel like this in the morning if he not like that for afternoon oh when I saw you in that dress he not going to wear that dress for the rest life we that for the rest of life so it's important that you you know do do all that you can if you return that Lamborghini in the to know if so thank you so much to our fans our viewers we love you this one is for you this is our this is the fourth big award in 2024 and it's not because of what we do it is because of the grace of God Almighty and your support so we are grateful so feel free to call us an awardwinning podcast woo thank you [Music] ...
