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hi everyone welcome back to my channel if you're new here i'm courtney ryan and today we're going to be going over six foolproof easy ways to tell that a woman is toxic and i think every single guy on the planet should watch this video especially after the amber heard johnny depp debacle that we all saw online i think it will benefit all of you to make sure that you watch this video and stick around until the very end so again these are six foolproof ways to tell that a woman is toxic let's get right into it number one she's always the victim if she's always pointing fingers blaming you never taking accountability it's always everyone's fault but hers this is not a good sign and a sign that she's unable to take accountability for her actions which is obviously not beneficial if you're looking for a healthy mature relationship this is the type of girl that's always going to make you feel guilty who's going to make you feel like you need to be apologizing for things that you didn't even do simply because of the fact that she can't take accountability for her actions plain and simple it's exhausting to be with someone like this and a toxic situation to be in where someone is always blaming other people and playing the victim now there's a really big difference between playing the victim and actually being the you know person who was in the right in a situation i'm not saying that she can never be the victim in a situation but i do think that constantly playing the victim or wanting to be the victim and wanting people to feel bad for you and throw a pity party for you is not a good way to live your life and is exhausting to be with someone like that number two and one of the easiest ways to see things from the very beginning is that they play games this is something that you honestly might be able to pick up on from the very start and save yourself some time i say this all the time on my channel if you have been on my channel for a while i'm sure you've heard me say this a million times if she's playing games with you this is a sign that she is insecure and immature and we don't have time for that here and also this is going to be a window into what the rest of your relationship is going to look like with her which probably is not a healthy happy one i will also say this and i think it's important for me to mention this at some point in the video is that a lot of times toxic people and toxic behaviors stem from you know insecurity immaturity but also trauma and also things that we need to deal with and heal within ourselves that a lot of people just don't step up and do does it mean that this person is going to be toxic forever no absolutely not does it mean this person is going to be undateable for their entire lives no absolutely not but i will say it is not your responsibility to stick around and find out if they change or to try to be the one to change them i would not recommend any of you do that in this case of talking about a toxic girl it 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able to be happy for you if the same thing is happening to her maybe you just got an a on your exam but she got a c so she's upset and mad at you for the fact that you got an a there are so many situations and scenarios where this can present itself that's just a little example i wanted to share with you in case maybe you've been in something like that but again this can present itself in many areas of our life whether it be with friendships or work or a promotion or getting a new job i mean it could be again an array of things but when achievement becomes competition she's not supportive she's not encouraging she's not happy for you and she only cares about herself this is a real issue and that leads me into my next point here number four which is excessive envy or jealousy if envy is keeping your partner from being happy for your success this is a big issue and it's quite frankly toxic when we're talking about jealousy here jealousy is a natural human emotion but when it leads to constantly mistrusting your partner snooping through their phone or crossing boundaries this isn't a good thing and being jealous and envious isn't cute and i know it might seem okay in the beginning or people say you know it's healthy to have a little bit of envy or jealousy in your relationships but again when it gets to this excessive point or a point where you know you're crossing boundaries and you can't trust each other now if you've given someone a reason not to trust you that's a totally different story that's not what i'm talking about here but say for instance you bring up a story you're telling her something and there's a girl that you mention in it and the second that you mention the girl she absolutely freaks out even though you've done nothing wrong that's exhibited and again here if something positive is happening in your life you would think that your partner would be encouraging and supportive but if envy is keeping them from being supportive or encouraging of you this is toxic number five is that she's controlling and again my last two points that i made have led me to this point and they're all kind of entwined within each other because often if you know she's controlling she also might be envious or jealous does she make you sit on the couch when you get home from work so that she can come and take your shoes off for you but one day you decide to take your own shoes off and she has a frantic meltdown if you watch the johnny depp trial you probably know exactly what i'm referring to here but regardless if you watch that or not generally speaking here controlling behavior is toxic being controlling of your partner is not healthy point-blank period does she control who you hang out with who you talk to what you do on a daily basis how you take your shoes off if you take your shoes off i know that's a crazy example but this is just proof that it happens of course setting boundaries within your relationship is really important but setting boundaries and being controlling are two very different things and my last point here is money does she try to get you to buy a birkin even though you just met her if so she's probably toxic does she only talk to you when you're buying her something or taking her out remember here what you allow is what will continue i really want to highlight here that it's toxic to spend tons of money to impress a woman but it's also toxic when a woman is only using you for your money if she makes you pay her in order to send her a text message again if she's asking for a broken on the first date if she's asking you to fly her out and take her shopping and that's the only way she'll talk to you probably a sign that this girl doesn't have your best interest in mind and only wants to see what's in your wallet and if you're in a relationship or married the same kind of money rule applies here but it might just look a little bit different have you agreed on a budget and she goes behind your back to buy things anyway does she cross the boundaries that you've agreed on when it comes to finances these are conversations that you need to be having and in order to have a healthy happy relationship you have to make sure that you guys are both you know respecting each other's boundaries and not consistently crossing them or that leads to toxic behavior like this all right guys so to wrap it up here again i think a lot of times toxic behaviors stem from insecurity and maturity trauma you know not taking charge of our mental health so i think it's really important to make sure that you're looking for these things when you're looking for a potential partner when you're dating even when you're in a relationship and married these are six fool proof warning signs that you need to look out for and again i'm not saying that just because she does things she is the scum of the earth worst person on the planet she's never going to be dateable but it just might require her to again step up take charge of herself and stop doing these toxic behaviors let me know down in the comments if you guys have ever experienced any of these things if there's anything i missed please be sure to let me know and help some of the other guys out down in the comments if you like this video be sure to give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel to be in the loop for when i release new content if you haven't already be sure to follow me over on instagram at courtney christine ryan i love connecting with all of you guys over on there as well as always thank you all so much for watching and i will see you all next time you ...
