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let's go to Caleb in Rochester New York you're with Stephen A along with my dear friend Tori and of course my nephew Josh go ahead how you doing Stephen what's up bro go ahead talk to me man I got a relationship question for you go ahead I'm here all right so I'm on the East Coast New York right yes I've been talking with this girl West Coast okay Washington okay that's pretty far that's six hours yes go that's that's that's far you think you think you think we could work out you you think that could work hell no come on hell no listen long distance the only way that long distance works is if she doesn't care that much about being with you okay and vice versa if you really really want each other then it becomes painful to be a part which builds frustration frustration ultimately animosity isn't far behind and eventually the heart you know absence makes the heart grow fer but too much absence makes the heart wander it's just that simple I don't understand how why you looking at me like that Tori cuz I'm in a longdistance relationship okay wa wait a minute wait a minute wait a minute I long time out time out time out Atlanta yeah New York right it's not the it's not the same dist it's not the same is not the same but it still is like when you go from having your partner in a certain place the same place as you and then you go to a different spot for a little bit it's an adjustment but it's just for a little bit right there see that's what I was going to say there's an that was a I was letting you finish with our beautiful and awesome caller here what's Caleb thank you Caleb look there has to be an end in sight to the long distance otherwise no otherwise Steven is right yeah sure thank you very much go ahead Josh I'm scared to the answer but go ahead the only way that it's going to work is that if the relationship is what we just spoke about open uh open open too what what's the difference between open and open open right like open open open open is is is what we explained she she could be in on the openness too just open is when men is like you know open open yeah open open Caleb does that answer your question yeah that answers it thank you man I love the Insight appreciate man thank you so much Toby and Marilyn you're live with Stephen A and his crew what's going on man hey I'm call from Maryland how you doing Toby how's everything it's female go ahead I'm good I have a question for you yes so how do you feel about the youngest son and the only daughter Dynamic the relationship Dynamic youngest son oldest daughter only daughter only daughter girl oh let me say this to you Dad that's a problem that's a problem let me explain why I thought originally you had said the oldest daughter see the oldest daughter is usually associated with the matriarch of the family so she's nurturing everybody she's raising us like on Linda you know stuff like that you raising us up you see what I'm saying so she's used to being a nurturer and to some degree in control right the youngest is the baby so they used to being nurtured and used to being baby so it works but if he is the youngest and she's the only both are using to be used to be spoiled and if usually there's one with slippage because no matter how much spoiling you do one or the other usually requires more than what they're getting who and BEC well in most situations I would tell you it's the only it's the it's the girl it's the only it's the only child the only child yeah it's the only the only child which is the girl in this particular instance she's accustomed cuz she don't have to share see you the youngest you might be spoiled but you still understand that there's certain stuff that's doled out for everybody else when you don't only you don't have to share everything was yours so because of that oh hell no that that's a bad situation Toby I'm sorry SW I mean that's a bad situation go ahead go ahead Toby are you in this relationship right now are you the um only child this Rel but it's funny it's not like she's the only child get it right I'm not the only child I'm the only girl but I'm the youngest and the boyfriend my boyfriend is the youngest son but he's not the he's the second yeah but you said only so see what I'm saying now that's a different thing only girl only yeah but still an all it's still it's still not an only yeah see you still chance it's different you still you got a chance it's it's a better chance you got a better chance definitely a better chance that's a better chance Josh yeah it sounds like a good chance sounds like a good chance Toby you're in a good situation you're in a good situation because you got a chance it's accustom to sharing and as long as both sides are accustomed to stuff being shared the requirements lessen to some degree if the guy is the youngest though you dealing with a Stephen A let you know that right what's a Stephen A you you the youngest in the house I'm just saying what's a stepen a the spoiled go get me this how am I spoiled how am I spoiled I you you you you know your mother and your auns when was I spoiled by them they slap me upside the head and tell me to go get do it myself Toby you got a parent perspective all in love like it was all all in love thank you Toby Thank You Toby you take can I give a shout out really quick go ahead real quick shout out to my dad Patrick my boyfriend Olu and my brother Toby with a i Toby with a I mine is with a Y got you no problem sh a ni day have a nice day happy New Year Matthew South Carolina talk to me and the crew what's going on what's up guys how y'all doing today we here we here what's up so let me let me set the stage for you Stephen A Smith right let me let me set the stage for you okay so a couple years ago I talked to my boy Steve Harvey okay about how to pick up a girl cuz I was clueless I didn't know how he gave me some great advice I used it now I've been married for a few years okay and I feel like that we kind of been just doing the same exact thing over and over in the bed and I want your advice how do I spice it up in the bedroom and how do I get like Shannon shark well a couple of things I have no idea what the hell you mean in terms of how do I get like Shannon sha let's get that out the way I have no clue what you're talking about secondly when you talk about spicing it up in the bedroom I think it's important to ask certain question work with me here Tor work with me I think I think I think it's important to ask a couple questions number one is she complaining about the lack of spice it's a good question Matthew is she complaining about the lack of spice I mean I think I mean my ass I asked you a direct question you know the answer to that question what's up with the studying uh the the stuttering rather and and and wiggling your way around ask you a direct question is she I mean she she's not complaining I'm just saying that I would love to spice it up a little bit more okay what I'm saying to you is this if she's not complaining then you're confident she's satisfied I mean she's satisfied I'm satisfied said I said I said she I said she's satisfied I said you're confident she's satisfied correct correct okay then anything you do that's different is going to help you out because it's a deviation unless it doesn't work now you try something new and it don't work that would be problematic sounds like he's the one that wants to spice it up she you know she's good it's been established in this conversation that's what I'm getting from you Matthew is that correct you're the one that wants to spice it up you're feeling like it's getting predictable exactly okay okay okay okay so but keep in mind this is someone who expects a certain shell from you every time so if you deviate they're going to ask where this this is coming from where is this coming from that's true where is this coming from very very ACC you get this from the internet yes did you get this I'm testing it out somewhere else why are you interested in this now I'm going to call my friends so you're opening up you know I think it's always better to have an open cuz she saying open communication first Do You Hear What Tor saying open communication first okay know what she's saying right Matthew she's saying that the minute you deviate the minute you deviate from the norm you're going to raise antennas SL suspicions where you get this from what you doing who you been doing it with where you been you feel me yeah I feel you I just want to I want to raise the bar the next level you can but you got to talk about it first Matthew you got to talk about it first you got to say hey I love you I just have something to say why are you looking like that y look like cuz y' yall coming down on the call support what Matthew Matthew Matthew look I thought he hung up no no he's they they don't understand they don't understand where you coming from you tried to break it down two different times it's about him wanting to be better in y still crashing down on him no we support it we just said about him wanting better wanting better what meaning wanting better he wants more he wants more spice yeah he just wanted you said you want to spice it up right mm Go watch go watch Even's go watch Stephen A's show two episodes ago and see what I told y'all to do on Tinder meet another one and add her to the bedroom wow you just talk about yeah but I said you know you said facts I'm take don't listen to that advice bro Matthew don't do it don't do it you going trust me trust me you going to be ready to you you're going to want to throw a rock my single pretty soon take it easy Matthew thanks a lot man two more callers left let's go to Kyrie in Maryland you're live with Stephen A and the crew what's going on Kyrie Stephen A Stephen A what's good how you doing Happy New Year talk to me what's up so you know we've been watching you on TV for a long time now right right so I'm quoting I'm quoting your nephew Josh He said you got to find someone to be old with you so my question is have you you don't got to say the name we just want a yes or no and the second part of that question you know it's 2025 I believe I believe I found out yes but go ahead I believe I found out to answer your first question but go ahead which is second question okay second question is 2025 can we expect a stepen pop out with the person he is being olded with mate um I have been seen with my lady on several occasions I just don't advertise oh l l l you see us holding hands together walking walking in public places um at events and things of that nature she has been with me I haven't hid um or anything like that I don't do that you're either with me or you not okay I feel it I feel it so you want to just keep it private no no I don't you know why because God forbid we break up and we ain't together you know you get with somebody else oh that's Stephen ASX see that's the kind of [ __ ] I don't like you understand what I'm saying why can't it just be her why I got to be oh that's Stephen ASX I don't play that stuff I I don't I don't I don't you know I will treat you with respect courtesy or whatever but once we done we done I'm not deferring to you I'm not referencing you I'm not pointing out that you used to be with me I don't want anybody else doing that etc etc you either with me or you not not that's how I your name attached to them yeah ifach them unless you with me unless you with me I've often said this I've often said this I'm not hiding anything but I've often said this you'll definitively know who I'm with when she's Miss Stephen A Smith why are you advertising you not many relationships that have been out there where you walking around and you're advertising this is the person that you with and then she ends up with somebody else and you in the news because of somebody else's business has nothing to do with you cuz you ain't no longer with the person but you in the news I don't want no parts of that I don't I don't discuss it I don't debate it I'm not R I don't I don't play that nonsense I can't stand people that get into people's personal business of all the years that I've been a reporter to all the years I've been a reporter I don't get into people's person I got my man gayen over there San and I don't get into people's personal business I st you my nephew knows this if you basketball football boxing whatever into your St I'm talking about your profession or if you end up in the police Bladers I have to talk about that that's a matter of public information if it's private it's none of my business no matter what I've seen or heard I keep it moving it's none of my business I respect it I respect that's that's the best part about you I would say that's that's what I would hope that everyone watching would take that and move like that because especially the men that are in high places because you will get so much more respect from the women around you if you move like that amen what you shck your head from cuz you just started claiming me they they want to know who your girlfriend is you family he don't even really claim yet like that you got to work your way in with him right who pass that down him no a passing nothing hell with him hell with him no girl is that for him Cole last caller Cole in Michigan you live with Stephen A what's up Cole Mr Smith how's it going man I'm all right I'm waiting for this show to end because my nephew's getting on my damn nerves but go ahead yeah I mean [ __ ] I be he be getting on my nerves too if I were you all this stuff on no I'm playing all fun go ahead for sure uh thank you guys for your time and congratulations on a million Stephen thank you man um so I called in I saw your Tweet uh you're asking about uh you were talking about relationship stuff you wanted questions for that so my question for you is and same with Josh I don't know Josh's background um but uh you know you obviously you don't want to know Josh's background go ahead yeah okay okay why what's shs do no no just keep it moving go ahead it okay so um being as successful as you are traveling as much as you are uh you know how do you keep healthy relationships how do you how do you manage relationships well first of all um I don't travel as much as I used to when I did travel that that much I refrained from having relationships because I know I couldn't be as honorable as I would be compelled to be if I'm traveling 200 plus days out of the year that's number one number two now that I travel significantly less it's a lot easier but I would tell you listen nobody's perfect and we get that and especially us trifling ass men sometimes we do the wrong things that's all true but there is never an excuse to be emotionally dishonest to let somebody know how you feel if you ain't happy say so if you're not turned on say so if you need more excitement say so if somebody is not the conversations are not stimulating enough or the sex ain't working or you know they ain't working hard enough or they're not supportive of you and your goals your Ambitions ET whatever it may be there is never an excuse for not letting somebody know how you feel because when you let somebody know how you feel they can deduce what's inevitable if you let them know where you stand and that is the rule that I've religiously followed go ahead Tori yeah I would say that exact same thing you have to communicate overc communicate and otherwise you're not going to have any stability in your relationship you're not going to go know where you stand in your relationship if you're not because you're going to pick up on where the person's what the person's feeling and if you they don't say it now you're creating a a rift between the two of you uh but that's the only way to have a cohesive partnership is through communication Josh I'm G okay I'm really starting to believe that I speak for the people that really don't care about their relationship stuffff because it's what's in it for us who's us the men men cuz I'm speaking for men you like in the middle cuz you know just just friend and he's doing a good job what is but I feel like it's genuine I feel like it's genuine it is genuine trust me it is genuine all I was raised by five women he knows a me too go ahead no you weren't no you weren't in the same house yeah but no you weren't you were not first of all you Wen in the same house you was living on 214 Street stop that okay that's number one number two you know GR Grandma shielded you from all of that stuff all right all right and and you were around me more than you were around your aunt so stop it I was around you we'll talk about some yeah listen he ain't everything he cracking up to me I'm not understanding he's the 60 year old version of Me Maybe in 25 years I'll tone it down but for now7 when you're in these relationships I just don't feel like it's it's much in it for us we got to pay for everything if somebody breaks into the house he ain't going to wake you up and be like figure that out that's me in in the light of danger that's true I mean not to laugh about it but yes this is what I'm saying you're expected to do something about it so can y'all answer that for me like what's in for and don't give me the corny oh she's going to love you and no what's in it for us cuz we know what's in it for y'all you looking for somebody to pay half the bills at least or sometimes all of it right that's what you told me in the car the other day he told me I'm not the right person to ask that question cuz I I pay for my bills okay you pay for all I pay for all my bills with the boyfriend with the boyfriend yeah we had that we had that tough conversation early on oh he said there's no there's no expect expectation here there's no entitlement and I said look you still got to want to buy my tacos he's he's he's misconstruing my point his whole thing is that when I talked about paying all the bills okay I'm not talking about all of her bills I'm talking about in my home in my habitat okay this is I'm living like this so in other words I'm not looking for a woman to come along and pay bills where I'm living yeah no where I live this is this is my and I'm and and obviously I believe it's going to be upgraded enough where you know it's going to be up to Snuff and you know you'll want to be there too but the point is that I'm going to take care of me and I'm going to take care of anybody in my habitat that doesn't mean I'm going go outside and take care of your stuff that's not what I said so he's missing so you see what he said he pretty much just said it again he's missing a whole he's saying in my my me if you in a house with your woman it's our house right yeah together but sometimes you're not always living together no we not talking about that if we living together you trying to be funny if we living together we splitting the bills that's it I'm not even getting a girl that can't help me okay or I'm not going to get a girl okay yeah I respect that hell no hell no pass passing it stop it listen I got to get on out of here he knows it's not he wasn't raised this way he was not raised this way you understand and and this is the thing and you you asked the question I'll end the show by saying this you ask what is it what what's in it for a man a relationship marriage all of that stuff a it depends on the right woman but if you have the right woman one that communicates with you one that takes care of the things you don't want to take care of that enables you to be position take that you have take now let me explain if Uncle Steve is about paying bills right well I want to pay bills so when I come home I don't feel like cooking I don't feel like cleaning I don't feel like doing a whole bunch of domesticated household stuff because I have no desire to do that because I've been working all day handling my business if we have that understanding and she takes care of that that's a lot that's off my shoulders that I don't have to be concerned about because she handles my business on that personal level and that enables me to do all the things that I want to do without having to be preoccupied TimeWise with a whole bunch of domesticated obligations because I have nobody at home to do that for me not to mention the fact that I ain't got to go out and look for nothing that I want in Between the Sheets because it's right there so I got all of that going on for me too you understand a partner that that that does matter so this is what you get out of it that's what you get out of it what what's your impression yall want to know what I got yeah what do you get out of it so everybody please be careful I know right I should have even opened up the can of words right I guess we'll let him say it right so everybody always ask like Stephen A really your uncle cuz you know his hair and this and that I'm like what's wrong with his hair my hairline has nothing to do with hereditary oh women did this whoa I was about to say cuz I've always seen you with a hat on I've only seen you with a hat on until this moment women I've been Bor cuz I was 22 so you just had I'm working off now y got me exposing myself let get this mic I hope y'all enjoyed the show Ste they signed off until next time that's it y'all ...
